Last week our whole household came down with a sickness and diarrhea bug. Me, DH, our DC were all in an absolute state and had a pretty rough few days as we all seemed to be hit at exactly the same time.
DHs ex insisted during this time that DSS come for normal contact which we strongly advised against. Shock, poor DSS ended up with the bug not long after arriving. When he was due to go back we said he could stay here but DSS was quite upset and wanted his mum so she came and collected him, again against DHs advice it was probably best to wait now he was unwell. She is now unwell and requesting that we have DSS because she's too poorly. DH is working a lot this weekend and early next week so it would be me looking after DSS and I have some plans, especially for tomorrow which I could cancel, but don't see why I should.
Aibu to have no sympathy? She knew we were all ill, she knew sending DSS to us meant he'd likely get sick, we'd offered to have him more when we were better to avoid him getting unwell, we said we'd keep him here but she picked him up when he wanted to come home.
To answer the question I know I'll likely be asked, she wasn't working, she did have plans with her partner and so wanted DSS to come as planned despite our warning it was probably not a good idea. DH doesn't have family in the country so not as simple as him asking grandparents instead unfortunately.
She has a habit of expecting us to be flexible when it suits her but not the other way around. Imo she wanted to go ahead with her plans regardless of the fact it would likely mean her son would end up sick and then she came to collect him knowing he was sick, now these are the consequences. I felt for DSS, when he got here he said he felt like he was "just sat waiting to get sick" 😔 As you can tell I'm not particularly fond of her, I'll admit.