Me & my OH both work shifts and this year is the first year since 2020 that we have both been off for Mother's Day. We have a 5 year old.
I suggested going out for dinner with both our mums. My mum had plans already (unconnected to Mother's Day) so OH said he would cook for his mum in our house instead. I would rather still have gone out but said this would be ok. This has now expanded into us hosting other members of his family and OH has offered to pick them up and drop them home - they don't all live in the same place and not near us so it's prob about a 90 min journey for both trips - so about 3 hours all in all.
I do appreciate the gesture but I said I would rather we had stuck to the plan to go out as now I'll worry about the hosting and tidying up before and after, plus will have to entertain whilst he's cooking and try to keep my little one happy without making a mess etc. He said I shouldn't worry and he will clean up, but I can't help the way I feel. He feels I am ungrateful now. I suppose it does come across this way but I just feel like what should have been a nice lunch out is now a whole day of stress. I do really appreciate him offering to cook for me and his family and it was nice of him to offer lifts but in practice it's just more work.