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Mothers day

30 replies

InBedBy10 · 29/03/2025 12:41

After years of being dissapointed on mothers day i have taken the bull by the horns this year and told my children I want a present for tomorrow. I'm not asking for alot. A cheap bunch of flowers from lidl or a cheap box of chocolates. A token gift to acknowledge the day really. I'd love it if they could do this without me having to tell them but here we are. My ex was useless organising anything for mothers day and since I became a single mam, no ones here to remind them.

I know my kids love and appreciate me, I just think mothers can be taken for granted. So I've decided its down to me to teach them how to show that appreciation. They are actually excited to go out and pick a 'surprise' for me.

I know MN is going to be full of disappointed mothers tomorrow. So if you've a useless partner or no partner like me. Maybe take my lead and give them a nudge today.

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NotMilanese · 29/03/2025 14:22

Many countries and cultures honour their parents or elders on certain days/ festivals without Hallmark; I don't think Mother's Day is simply because of card-makers. It's a good opportunity to discuss and model showing appreciation for those who do things for you. I think the OP is doing the right thing by setting expectations.

Newnameshoos · 29/03/2025 14:25

When my stepchildren (we're both women) were younger, I made sure that their mum got a present and card on mother's day from them.
When they went to university one year apart, I reminded them, asked if they were coming home for the weekend etc. Figured they were old enough to organise a card between them. My partner's upset when neither child appeared and nothing arrived in eldest's 2nd year at uni was awful to witness. I get that they have boyfriend's mums to factor in, plus their dad's new wife, but they are totally selfish and take their mum for granted.
Now they work, I still remind them, ask if they would like to come for lunch etc, but not much I can do. I take my partner for lunch, but she really wants her children to acknowledge her. It really hurts that they don't.

Speckyfourfries · 29/03/2025 14:26

I am really dreading tomorrow, 2 teens (one is Autistic) who won't make any effort at all and younger children who don't know..I was a bit hurt inside that they didn't even make cards at school 🥲
I'll be on my own with them dealing with everyone's shit as per usual.
I'm super skint until payday on Tues too so can't even treat us to a take away and myself a bottle of wine, as that was my original plan.
I know people say to avoid social media on these days but ill probably have a little look and will feel a bit hurt that I'm not a mum getting spoilt for the day.. sigh.

Hope all that doesn't sound too negative but would just love ONE day where I get at least a cup of tea made for me... 😌

Regretsmorethanafew · 29/03/2025 14:28

Jane958 · 29/03/2025 13:25

Are you religious?
Since Mother's Day actually does not exist in the UK.
It was previously Mothering Sunday, when people went back to the church, where they originally worshipped.
Mother's Day does exist in much of the world, but it often at the beginning of May.

It very clearly does exist.

OldChairMan · 31/03/2025 22:29

How did it go, @InBedBy10?

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