Does it make me an awful mother…

[Ketryne]

That all I was for Mother’s Day is a day of not being a mother at all?!

I have a 3.5 year old DS and 4 month old baby DD who I love immensely, but God all I want is a day off!

A night of uninterrupted sleep. A lie in. A shower that last more than 3 minutes. A whole day of not having to talk about/watch/play spider man. Not spending longer trying to get the baby to nap than the nap actually lasts for.

Yes DH is wonderful and would take them out of the house for a couple of hours (I’m breastfeeding so he can’t do much more than that), but there’s still a million jobs and a dog to walk so it’s not like I can ever revel in kid free time because I’m doing things against the clock till they get back.

I don’t regret them for a minute but if I could press a button and make them disappear for a day, I would. Is that awful?

For Mother’s Day my partner took both of the kids to his mums for the night so I could have a leisurely bubble bath, get a take away and have full control of the tv. It was bliss and I was happy to see them the next morning because I’d missed them. Just because we’re mothers doesn’t mean we aren’t people anymore and sometimes we need a night off to remember that.

Rich people have the button - they call it a nanny. Are they all terrible parents? You're very tired, and what you feel is totally normal. Is there anything else you'd want to do 24-7, 365, for years? Be with your DH? Do your fantasy job? Even have that alone time? No. YANBU.