Before I spiral I just want a reality check on a very minor issue but my overthinking will wreck my day:
I hired a workman to fix something in my home. I’ve used before he’s good but this time he said his policy has changed and he requires payment before job (I know I was a mug!) I paid as I’ve used before and he’s a decent guy. It’s £70 but still a lot for me. He’s cancelled 5 times with many excuses. Today was suppose to come but messaged me he’s left his drill at work. I messaged back he either refunds me the money today or he can use our tools instead. He reluctantly agreed to come and use our tools. Unknown to me the tool he needs (my husbands drill) to use hasn’t been working so I quickly messaged on my streets WhatsApp if anyone could lend us the tool. A very kind man said we can use but we need to collect now as he’s going to work. I was still not dressed and had to get kids ready and feed them so asked DH to get from him. DH refused as he feels awkward going around. I just put clothes on and went to collect whilst my kids were crying for breakfast which he ignored and continued watching tv and on his laptop.
my mum called and I told her I’m upset with the whole situation but her reaction was I should not be upset with DH for not collecting it and he’s busy so I should be more understanding! I know my anger is misplaced but she’s been like this all my life always dismissing my feelings and making me feel I’m the one in the wrong.
if it was my sisters she would always take their side. I know she didn’t want me ad I’m the youngest girl and she wanted a boy. All of this she denies but I know. Aibu for wanting my mum to understand my frustration with DH? Am I also wrong for wanting him to go around even though he feels awkward? I felt awkward and I’m embarrassed as their home is so lovely and I turned up with messy hair and dressed like a homeless person!