To think this threat was completely ridiculous

[Freakedoutandannoyed]

At a gig tonight and there was two woman behind me, not being obnoxious but loud and drinking. The music started and they carried on talking (shouting) loudly at each other.
After a few songs I turned round and asked them to be quiet. This then escalated to them trying to pour a pint of beer over me and telling my DP they were gonna chin me before he told them to sling their hook.
however he’s annoyed at me now as he said I started it. AIBU to think that you shut up and let people listen to the band they have paid £60 for? (Excluding singing obviously)

Every gig I've ever been to the music has been so loud that people have to shout.

I can't imagine getting annoyed and asking someone to be quiet.

Obviously different if it was an orchestra or a piano recital etc.

OP you can't tell people at a gig not to talk. They were obviously aggressive but you did start it.

Perfectly within your rights. They were knobs. And so is your partner.

I would be annoyed but not said anything to them. I don't like people standing up and dancing in seated area's blocking my view.

Were they any quieter after that?

I couldn't imagine complaining about talking at a gig or concert. Theatre or cinema maybe 🤔.

Most people answering this thread so far are ridiculous, as we're those girls and your husband.

If someone has paid to hear a band play, of course it's annoying when people are shouting through it. People shouldn't be shouting over the music people have paid and attended to hear play.

Those girls are stupid for paying to hear a band play themselves and then shouting over it - they can be stupid if they like, but they should do it on a way that doesn't impact others.

Well that's us told 🤭. I'm probably thinking of a dancey sing along type of venue, rather than a sit down and listen venue - that's the confusion. A Taylor Swift concert with everyone screaming her songs versus a more grownup acoustic set .
No one is telling the TS fans to pipe down they probably should though.

I've never attended a gig where people didn't talk through it - they're generally very casual things where people wander off, go to the bar etc. while the band play.

I Always smile when OP skirt over the “it quickly escalated” detail!

Same - because what really happened ??

Never been to a gig/concert where people don't talk , wander around, dance and sing unless it is an orchestra or something

I hate it when you have people talking loudly throughout the set. If you can hear them above the music they are being unnecessarily loud. I'm not on about the odd bits of conversation or singing along, I'm thinking of a time when a girl was talking incredibly loudly throughout almost the whole set. She finally shut up when everyone around her told her to do so. It was a really heavy gig, so she was incredibly loud. I've had to tell people to be quiet during a theatre performance. I honestly don't get why people feel the need to talk throughout the whole thing.

What?? Cinemas are much cheaper and you can just stream it later.

I went to a classical concert and the people in front of me in the front row were talking through it so I told them to be quiet. Turned out they were part of an X Factor band and they were really lovely, just apologised and said it was because they were excited to be there. All good.

That's not what I meant obviously. Cinema you need to STFU so you can hear the dialogue to understand the plot, an Oasis concert you are screaming to Supersonic - as mentioned in my previous post , the type of music venue matters.

I honestly don’t get why people pay good money to go to these things then choose to talk throughout. It’s annoying and rude. Sure sing, dance and have fun but I don’t need to hear you yelling a full blown conversation through the whole show. I went to a gig last year, tickets cost £100+, the group stood next to us spent the whole show huddled in a small circle talking and smoking weed with their backs to the stage. Just why?!

I don’t think I’ve ever been to a gig where you could hear anyone, no matter how loud they shouted 😆

It genuinely went from “can you stop talking all through the songs please” to my partner stopping her pouring beer on me and then shouting that she would hit me. It unnerved me to fair!
I can see from the replies maybe IABU though

Very strange then that your partner is annoyed and thinks you started it all given you were, according to your version, nothing but calm, civil and polite 🤔

YANBU at all and I think most people who are regular gig goers would absolutely agree that talking over the songs is not the done thing at all! I go to loads of live music events and I’m in various live music forums and Facebook groups online, and pretty much everyone thinks people who a) talk through all the songs or b) film entire songs on their phones are ignorant arseholes. Maybe people sit there talking all through big arena / stadium gigs, but it’s definitely not considered OK at the kind of venues where you’re standing with a pint. People go to listen to the band, dance, maybe sing along - not to chat all the way through as if you’re in the pub. The band is the focus of a gig; it’s not background music.