Job offer but I’m in a mess at work, what do I do?

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I actually posted about this a few weeks back and can’t find the thread! Basically I’ve been in a professional role for a number of years and had a new manager when I came back from maternity leave. He’s never given me much work (his job is to provide it and delegate it). I have a few examples of being taken out of meetings last minute and also of him questioning my home arrangements with absolutely no basis (I’m a single mum but dd in childcare 8am to 6pm).

Anyway he’s been regularly suggesting I need to go on a PIP and said if I don’t sort myself out in a few weeks that is what will happen. Those few weeks have passed and he’s not given any feedback on anything, other than to say he expected more. Whilst this is to some extent subjective, I have shared my work with other people in the profession without telling them what is going on and I’ve asked for feedback and it’s all been positive. I feel massively bullied by this man.

Cut to the main point of this post, I went for a job much better paid and a generally better role and quite amazingly I have got it. The offer landed on Wednesday and yesterday my boss told me he is putting me on a formal pip.

Will this now show as my reference? I’ve not handed notice in yet as my recruiter is finalising the details of the role. I’ve also had some preliminary legal advice around my boss’ behaviour and been told I should get into a position to ask for a settlement and part of me wants to but I also don’t want to rock the boat as this new job is really good. Just don’t know what to do. Any advice welcome.

Was this your original thread?
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5299456-to-think-i-have-at-least-some-sort-of-case-against-my-employer-or-am-i-being-deluded

As long as your new job is confirmed, I would just resign, leave the old one behind, and move on to better things.

All your reference can say is your start date, leave date, job title, and reason for leaving (which in your case would be resignation, assuming you do resign).

Well done on the new job.

P.S. I also wouldn't worry about engineering a settlement (or trying to). Whilst you may / may not be entitled to it, the chances of the timing working out are slim, and you don't want to jeopardise your new job. Long term, the new job is worth more to you than either the satisfaction or a few quid in the bank.

As long as you have your offer formally confirmed in writing, hand in your resignation and look forward to the date you are leaving.

I was in a similar position last year actually. I took a job where the line manager was an absolute arsehole. It was in a sector where I had hardly any experience and despite me constantly asking, I was given barely any feedback or support. I reported him because he was doing something illegal and he responded by trying to fire me at the end of my probation, although due to something I said in the meeting, he was only able to extend it.

Cut a long story short, about 1 month before the end of probation meeting, I’d received a promotion with a 25% pay increase 🙌 This was another reason he was miffed. I then had to admit to my new manager that I was on an extended probation. It was humiliating and embarrassing but my new line manager couldn’t have been more supportive and I’ve thrived.

You’ll be fine OP, you’ve got this!