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AIBU Constant Lies

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ZillahBarnes · 28/03/2025 08:43

DC13. Lies / fibs all the time. Lies about brushing teeth / changing pants. Lies about where they’ve been (I have tracking app on phone - they say they’ve been somewhere this morning but I can see they’ve stood in the same place for 8 minutes). Little white lies which wouldn’t make an ounce of difference if they told the truth. I’m fearful these are so frequent, and so natural / easy, in future they will become far bigger and perhaps even more dangerous.

Bigger examples: (1) lied about direct messaging with strangers through Roblox. (2) Found out in January DC promised to pay for something for a school friend (who I have never met) in December. “Friend” was chasing in late January, I found messages on DCs phone and challenged them. They said it was in-game currency worth around £20, I responded to the friend and arranged to repay them by a certain date - turns out it was worth £40! Specific game has now been removed. Went to a school sport event yesterday evening and asked to meet this friend - was told immediately they didn’t attend this particular sport - whereas this is how they met and friend “has always been at training…” - this concerns me greatly as I now think this was another online “friend”.

What can I do? Child’s father is an alternate weekend / throws money at them kind of parent, but without his input here I don’t think this will be quashed.

I’m struggling.

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ZillahBarnes · 28/03/2025 15:25

Swiftie1878 · 28/03/2025 14:06

I hate Life 360. It’s invasive of privacy, and I do agree with the other PP who suggested you are over-using it and being controlling.

Handling that scenario differently? When the text arrives about the forgotten football, a simple ‘ah, well, you’ll cope’ should have been the response.
Give your child a bit more independence (stop checking up on them over trivial matters) and then let them live with their own trivial mistakes.

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Heard. Thanks.

I think overall the checking up is as a result of the lying - vicious cycle. It’s very frustrating.

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