Hi there!...just wanting to get a bit of perspective...I have a friend who had quite a traumatic childhood, has been medicated for anxiety (and is slowly tapering off - under the care of a doctor).
She tends to talk alot about work, I hear the in's and out's, listened to taped convo's between her and her boss when her performance at work was under scrutiny (I'm annoyed I let that happen - there is no context), read printed out emails (from work) to scrutinise over - (I told her not to do that again - but this was before the taped convo).
There have been times when I needed to talk - especially one evening but the response I got was 'we are not talking about this all night' and another convo about my workplace was shut down pretty quickly again. To be fair, she has listened to me on occasions but I really needed to talk about this issue.
She was having a rough time (apparently) with coming off the meds, and she sent me this bizarre passive aggressive text (she has done this a few times) saying she anxious, angry, tired (all the emotions - similar to PMS). I think it was having a go at me for not checking in on her - (well that's how I interpreted it) but she seemed okay at my birthday, her birthday etc. This also happened when she became unwell with an infection a couple of months ago. She also had a go at me for my texts not being long enough.
I probably should of checked up with her...but I'm not her only friend. I'm currently looking for work and I have a dear friend of mine who has terminal cancer - that has been on my mind - and she is aware of this. have shown up in many ways such as listening, having her stay with me for an extended period, helped out financially (which I volunteered to do) and taken her with me on two trips (again my idea). She got drunk on one trip and it was nightmare trying to find her (she took off) - she also insisted on having a say on the hotel we were staying at despite the fact I was paying. She was also quite rude on this trip and then sent me another text saying her other friend (on same trip was 'alot of fun'. Okay. There have been other incidents where she has come across as entitled and had strange ideas on my upbringing believing my parents were 'wealthier' than I led on - just based on me going to a top private catholic girls school (well it is now...wasn't then). She is insistent on this - and it's tough time to explain to her that the stars were seriously aligned to send me there - that's the only thing my parents really spent money on - no overseas trips, driving everywhere - but she doesn't seem convinced. She also dismissed that fact that I was in love with someone because I hadn't slept with them. WTF.
The list goes on. It's a shame, because she has at times pointed out things I think have made me grow as a person, and the kind of honesty I don't get in other friendships - I have told her personal things and it was judgement free - but then again she slags off her other friends and I suspect she does to me.
Am I being unreasonable - i.e if I stop being friends with her I'm worried about her anxiety flaring up again etc but if I tell her to behave herself she will only do that to get what she wants and her behaviour will start up again. I don't know.
Thanks.