How to wake up in the morning before baby?

[Bellzy]

My baby is 5 months, waking every couple of hours. We are safely cosleeping so wakes often just consist of putting a boob in his mouth!

Toddler wakes 2-3 times a night.

I need to get up earlier than baby/toddler in order to get myself ready for the day. When I don't, we're all late.. DH late for work, toddler misses breakfast at nursery, I don't get to shower, baby often goes out in PJ's :/

I just can't seem to get up (alarms get snoozed etc) and then feel bad all day.

AIBU?
Yes: I'm lazy and need tough love- just get up!
No: It's hard, be kind to yourself and find work arounds, eg shower at night.

Practical advice and strong, encouraging words of wisdom appreciated!!

@Bellzy OP be kind to yourself. Your youngest is only 5 months. It takes a bit to get into a routine. Specially as baby doesn’t sleep through the night. But as PP said why is DH late for work? If DH is sleeping through the night he should be the one waking up and he could dress your toddler and then wake you up as he leaves for work and you can then go about getting in the shower. I understand it might not be possible for husband to drop toddler to nursery because of commute but if it is let him do drop off.

Similarly we have a 12m old and 3.5yr old twins and cosleep. My husband generally (3/4 days a week) has to be out by 6:50 to get his train so I know that's my cut off for prep time. So we do 5:50 alarm, if the kids stay asleep great but mostly they don't. I have 30 mins altogether shower, dress and do makeup. My husband does nappies and onto the toilet for older 2. I then take them all down and start breakfast while he showers and dresses. Then he leaves. After breakfast, I get the kids dressed and ready and we head out the door at 8 to walk to preschool. It's very regimented but means we both get time to get ready and if I don't shower then I know I won't get the chance. Before they started preschool so did it the other way so he got ready while I did nappies then he played with them (as he wouldn't be home before they were asleep) while I got ready as we weren't in a rush, but often he overran so I got little time. One thing I've learnt is that if I'm tired I need to go to bed earlier and have my "lie in" that end of the night

Thanks everyone! The replies have been much more positive and supportive than expected.

I think what I've realised is we need clear boundaries of who is doing what and to agree to be ready for a set time. And that perhaps I can advocate for more sleeping time! Thanks everyone. It's really helped.

I particularly like the idea of the "lie in" at the start of the night, and I will try moving my alarm physically away. Also, I get the toddler clothes ready the night before, but not the babies or mine (it just never occurred to me!) so I think that will really help too.

Finally regarding cosleeping, I understand that using the word "safely" may not be the best term, but I mean that I follow all the guidelines regarding cosleeping. I know everyone has different opinions and it's important for everyone to do their own research and do what's best for their family.

This really has taken a weight off me today, so thanks again all xx