Smoking and newborn

[Rosiejj5]

Hello. I’m really panicking at the minute, my dad looked after my 6 week old for 2 hours yesterday and when she was picked up the house stunk of smoke. He doesn’t smoke so it must have been his partner that was round smoking in the house and I’m just worried now about sids after she’s obviously inhaled smoke :(

Anyone who thinks it is fine to smoke around (especially inside) with children (even worse for a newborn!) wouldn’t be around my child

Your baby will be fine after this one exposure, OP, she's fine.

But I certainly wouldn't be having them around the baby again, unsupervised.

I would be utterly furious if someone’s was smoking around my kids without me giving permission (which I never ever would) and wouldn’t trust them ever.

To clarify was it your house or did you drop little one off at your dads?

She obviously shouldn’t be smoking around babies.

However, a couple of hours spent in a house where someone smoked a couple of cigarettes will not cause SIDS. That really isn’t how it works. Your baby will be fine.

She’ll probably fine after just this exposure, although hopefully she wasn’t breathing the smoke out directly at your baby. I wouldn’t be sending my baby again though, it’s not worth the risk.

Was this at your house or your father's?

If it was at your house then tell them that nobody, NOBODY, is allowed to smoke inside the house and that you could tell that it had happened. If it was at your father's house then you have less control but you can tell them that in future your child will be looked after at yours where smoking indoors will not be allowed.

It was very irresponsible of them. However, I would think that for a couple of hours lasting problems are unlikely. I get what is worrying you though. We are non-smokers and brought up our children as such. However, every so often throughout their lives they were unavoidably exposed to my dyed in the wool heavy smoker parents. We did minimise that as much as we could, but it sometimes became unavoidable. They were fine, although we didn't like it.

Been thinking about this more, in your shoes I'd be absolutely devastated. Your baby will almost certainly be fine after one exposure, but I do feel that this proves these relatives can't be trusted to care for your baby properly. Everyone knows you can't smoke around kids, especially such little children. The fact they've done it anyway shows a lack of regard and care and consideration for your child.

You say he doesn't smoke you you've concluded it must be his partner, how come you haven't actually asked? Surely the first thing you'd do after showing up at his house where your 6wk old has been left is ask 'why does it smell of smoke?'

Thank you everyone for your replies. I don’t know how to edit the post but was actually suppose to say at the start that I was posting for a friend who isn’t on mumsnet, il send these over to her. When she was telling me she’s worried I just said I go straight to mums net for advice 🤣x