Does your partner have to remind you to send a Father’s Day card to your own father?

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Does your partner remind you to buy a card/present/arrange a day out on Father’s Day for your own father? Or does he just do it himself and send a card to his father in law from both of you?

YANBU - I’m a busy woman, I cannot fit in any time to send a card once a year without any prompt, especially as I’ll probably not even bother to do the same for my husband who is also a father.

YABU - He’s your father for goodness sake, you’re a grown woman who has a responsible job and can manage to plan around deadlines, and are you not planning to do something with your own children for your husband on that day too?

I see what you did there. I agree that it is not reasonable to need your partner to prompt you to remember events relating to your own side of the family.

No he does not. But fair point.

I don’t do Father’s Day or Mother’s Day. I enjoy the cards that the kids make in nursery but that’s it. It means nothing as a day.

Same here. Do grown up men really send Father's Day cards to their grown up fathers?

I love this post.

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Obviously you are spot on. My DH used to forget, he doesn't now, as his DM passed away & his DF is very frail. He's obsessed with his father now. Never misses anything. Especially fathers day. So, capable, just wasn't a priority until DH was presented with the reality that his DF might not be here for the next one.

Me, on the other hand, have to remind DH every mother's day that it's important the DC get me something (or make something), especially DS, so they don't grow up thinking it's ok to forget their loved ones.

Honestly OP I don’t know why you seem to be making such a big thiiiiing about this! We work as a team in our family as we both work full time. I sort all the childcare, laundry, ironing, cooking, food shopping, birthdays and Christmas etc. DH puts the bins out and washes his car. Don’t all families work like this?

Anyway I especially do the cards and presents because I love love love it and am very good at it despite not really being that close to his family, DH is rubbish at it.

I love it here! 😁

Brilliant!

Haha jesus.

But to answer OP
No he doesn't have to remind me to send a card to my dad.

However, I have reminded him twice about his mum and I'm not doing it again. He's 48.
I'll wait for the inevitable flap on Saturday ( she lives too far to deliver ourselves)
She knows what he's like now.

I understand your question as this is how it is in many households. However DH bought my mother's day card for me and posted it!

Sure he does.

I have a busy job and I just can't remember things like that. I did somehow manage to remember to buy my dad a card before we married, but when I got married, I somehow lost the ability to do this stuff for my family.

I'm so rubbish at buying cards and presents. He really enjoys buying cards and wrapping presents. It's one of his biggest skills, so you know, it makes sense that he just does it.

My dad will also send him a message to ask him what we have planned for him on FD. He organises most of my family meet ups, it's just expected of him.