Potty training - help

[Shiningstar88]

Ds is just over 3 and we have started potty training. He's shown no interest until now, not really that interested but he will start school soon so we need to get started

Wees we seem to be ok with but anything else he's just not getting and has at least 2 or 3 accidents a day

Dh and I arguing how to deal with it. I ge uinly think he just doesn't get it at the moment, and everytime i clean him up in remind him to go on thr toilet. We've tried sticker charts/rewards and still not getting it

I'm of the thought process of he will get there eventually. Dh is now going down the punishment route and made him sit on the step for 10 minutes after his last accident

Amy advice ?

Your husband is disgusting.

Oh Crap Method. Hands down the best. I think three is the very latest you want to leave it, but if he’s just turned three, then won’t he start school Sept 2027?

I don’t know if you’ve tried this but I did the 2/3 days staying in the house with nothing on bottom half. No nappy. Nothing. You’re supposed to ask and take them to the toilet every 30 minutes. I ended up asking my daughter every 10 minutes 😂. She would get quite annoyed with me!. I couldn’t believe how well this worked though and after the 2/3 days we’ve not had one accident! That was 9 months ago. It’s an intense way of doing it but it worked for us.
I don’t agree with the punishment thing. Positive reinforcement is the way forward in my opinion.

Please don't punish him, that won't help at all and might cause him to withhold.

Stay home for a week, keep him with nothing on from the waist down. Make sure he's drinking lots and eating lots of fruit... The more opportunities for success, the better! And the easier it is for him to have a poo, the better. For catching poos, get him to sit on the potty after every meal. The gut starts working after eating, and a poo is more likely. Let him watch TV or read books with him while he's there. Also get him to blow bubbles or blow out candles while he's sitting on it. The blowing helps get him to relax and gets things moving. Lots and lots of praise for his efforts. And oops, never mind for any accidents

Also a 10 min time out for a 3 year old is way too long

There is a Parenting area on the site, with a whole section on potty training. 🙂

Oh dear! Your DH really doesn't understand 3 year olds, does he? A 10 minute time out as a punishment for doing something that comes naturally is AWFUL!

I would follow the advice of 'Pjrunner' or 'LighthouseTeaCup', this generally works OP.

You cannot punish a child for a toilet accident, that's horrible and you risk making the issue significantly worse. No way I'd allow your husband to do that.

I found some picture books helpful, we had one called "even pirates poo" which my son loved. He will get there.