Wedding colour scheme - am I dumb cause I don’t get it?

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So obviously I have heard of wedding colour schemes. It was among the first things I thought of when I got engaged. But beyond a small detail on my wedding invite and my bridesmaids dresses I can’t really think of where else to incorporate it. I don’t want finance’s tie to match the colour of the bridesmaid dresses for example as I think that is too matchy matchy. Df is doing a navy suit no waistcoat (something similar to attached) so he can rewear. I would have liked a black tux but oh well.

I guess I can tie a bit of ribbon in our colour on the menu that will be at the place setting.

What am I missing???

My flowers are various shades of white, cream, blush pink roses.

I might do the name cards in the colour. But it doesn’t feature a lot. Worried it looks half arsed.

I fear we’re very late I. The day for to be asking something so basic

You don't have to do any of this. Just do what you like. It's your wedding. No one remembers the colour scheme or lack of.

I’m thinking my blushes and creams in the flowers which will be in bouquets and table centre pieces plus my main colour IS the scheme?

Wouldn’t worry about tbh. Used to do wedding flowers and can look too match if everything the same colour pallets. An eclectic mix of colours can look really good and more effortless.

What about table decorations? A touch of colour matching your bouquet or bridesmaid dresses perhaps

Just ignore all that wedding shit and plan what you’re having for breakfast together the next day.

Often mothers of the bride and groom wear outfits that tone in with bridesmaids colours too. They don’t have to match really, but complement the overall look usually. So it would be unusual to have bridesmaids in pink, flowers pinks and lilacs, and mother of the bride in a strong yellow for example. But you can if you (or they) want of course!

So this is my table. I am a bit more minimal by nature. I will be adding name cards with what I think are very cute name holders plus menus which will have velvet ribbon in my main colour. And the centrepiece will be bigger/fuller. We can’t fill up too much as we need the space for the buffet style food that is being brought to the table. There is ALOT of food.

I don’t want to overextend myself and the bridal party with set up. Caterers will do table setting plus a few decorations but I don’t want to take the piss

Ignore, weddings are an industry designed to extract as much money from gullible brides as possible. Nothing needs to match, not even dresses. Be yourself, do what makes you happy and don’t spend more than you can afford especially on frivolous things nobody will even notice.

i had two different colours of bridesmaids dresses as my DD’s couldn’t agree, dh bought a lovely new suit from slaters rather than renting, his best man wore a non matching suit (controversial ) and their ties did not match! Did anyone notice, nope, did it affect the photos, nope all you see is smiling people looking back. We invested “spare” money into a completely free bar, now that was popular!!!

i do like it when weddings have multiple wedding colours that all in the same family but if it’s one colour everywhere that’s not for me. I’m just not creative enough to achieve the former. I will probably tie some lovely white satin ribbon to the chairs and call it a day.

I honestly think you are over thinking. As long as flowers, table settings and bridesmaids dresses tone together then I think that's fine. If you are doing a cutting of the cake could add toning ribbon bow to the knife?

Do whatever you like, you don't have to have a colour scheme at all.

At my wedding DH's tie was burnt orange, I matched my bouquet to it (didn't have any other wedding flowers) but that was about it. Bridesmaids just wore whatever they wanted.

Absolutely everything has a colour. Colour schemes just mean choosing with all the other colours in mind. So every thing you choose- invitation, table cloth, place names, ribbons, flowers, clothes, party favours, chair covers etc- works with everything else.

It doesn’t all have to be the same. But if you limit the range of colours or deliberately include small touches of lits of colours, it will have a better overall effect than being random about it.

You may be limited by your venue. That deep red carpet, or the existing green table cloths, will work better with some things than others.

It doesn’t matter. It’s not important. Nobody will remember, and nobody but you will care. It’s not about the marriage, it’s all about hosting a party. Don’t worry.

The table looks fine.

I never really had a colour scheme. There was going to be one, mostly because DH and I like navy and purple so chose those colours for him and groomsmen to wear and the invitations. But it hadn't occurred to me that that was meant to extend to table decorations or seat covers or anything else. I didn't really care. Also, my mother demanded green bridesmaid dresses so that put a stop to any planned colour based theme...

Have what you like on your wedding day. If it all ends up in similar colours or tones then I suppose you have a colour theme!

You're supposed to go complete bridezilla and dictate to the guests what colour outfits they can wear.

"Our colour theme is white and gold. Anyone not wearing these colours will be refused entry to wedding."

You really are an amateur at this, aren't you? 😉

Your flowers sound beautiful - don’t stress. Enjoy your day, my tip is to make sure that you eat in the evening, I didn’t and wished that I had

I had the colours navy and burgundy. Was supposed to be burgundy bridesmaid dresses but apparently burgundy comes in 300 different shades. I had navy bridesmaid dresses. I had a navy rose leather brooch. Invites had burgundy. Had wooden stuff. Bridesmaids had burgundy wraps and I had a fur one. Completely forgot the wraps, forgot the brooch. Had red and pink flours. It all looked fine. I don't think anyone really notices that much really.
The table decor looks nice.

I had a table decorator and just told her what we were doing and she did whatever.

Colours sound lovely, please make sure any table cloths have the fold marks ironed out.

You don’t ‘have’ to do any of this stuff….enjoy your day

I think multiple colours from the same colour family is lovely. It looks classy but not over-contrived.

I had a pink dress, moh had a sage green dress, DH had a natural linen suit - no waistcoat or tie, BM had a navy suit and waistcoat. Important that your wedding isn't about colour matching but about the commitment. As for tables, we went to a restaurant so didn't bother with decorations. If I had it would have been simple baby's breath and greenery spread in a line from each end meeting in the middle with a candle.

If you don't want things too matchy, why are you worried about it?

We had our colour, or shades of (in most cases along with neutral colours, so sometime just a hint) on bridesmaid dresses, flowers, invitations, place cards, DH and DFS ties, cake, balloons in evening do and favours. But there is no reason all those things have to match. If you would rather have a mix of different colours that's fine too. It's sounds lovely.

You want a colour scheme but you don’t want things matching? Kindly OP, that is literally what a colour scheme is.
I had lots of things in different shades of one colour mixed with white for most things; grooms, fathers (mine and DH), best man and page-boys ties, bridesmaids dresses, Mother of bride and Maid of honour dresses table centrepieces, chair covers, flowers, invitations, the big card with the table names and places, our wedding cake.
But if you don’t want things to match then don’t worry about a colour scheme, you do you.

I mean I don’t want everything one color. But equally would like a cohesive look where there is a family of mixed/complimentary colours. But I haven’t found many places to achieve this.

We matched my husband's pocket square to the bridesmaid's dresses but that's it.