To think that people who always “want to help” others are just avoiding fixing their own mess?

[ThatDeftRoseTurtle]

If you’re constantly busy being a saviour for others, maybe it’s because you’re terrified of looking at your own life.

What an odd take! I like to help others and have no mess to fix.

How many threads like this are you going to start?

Who has annoyed you then?

How many times are you going to name change and start threads like this?

Not necessarily. The people I know like this have either just been brought up to be duty bound to ‘do their bit’, so feel they have to help, or are just genuinely nice, selfless people. One of them I’ve known over 45 years, her life is fine, she has no mess of her own.

I don't recognise that characterisation at all.

The people I know who genuinely do loads for others are able to do that precisely because they have their own lives sorted.

Maybe if you mean people who love to interfere, in the name of helping, you have a point

I don’t think they’re necessary petrified of their own life. However, some people like the validation and feel-good factor of helping others.

Hiwever, in some relationships, the person can ge seen as a saint, helping others, but they’re neglecting the person left at hone picking up the pieces, looking after the children etc. A bit like the dp who spends all their time on a ‘hobby’ (golf, cycling, marathon running etc).

If you constantly start odd threads on an online forum, are you avoiding your own mess? - one might wonder.

Not you again! You’re getting boring.

There are a lot of these threads at the moment.

I think that people who do X are just avoiding problems with their own life?

The answers being yes/no/maybe/sometimes, but mostly, why do you care?

I think it depends on whether the help is needed/requested or if they just think "X is living their life in a way I am not! My way is better, I'm going to impose my will on this person and they had better be grateful for it!"