To accept I am just a stress head

[MiniPumpkin]

hoping folk tell me I am being unreasonable. I am a stress head, think it’s just who I am. My dad and brother are very stressy too so thinking partly genes. I am under immense pressure at work, I’m in middle management and to say we are thin on the ground with staff is an understatement.
I have suffered twice from depression and used sertraline which really turned down my stress levels. I do think depression is a result of continued stress. Not convinced I am depressed rn and I’m not keen on medication again. Could also be peri at age 37? unsure if it’s stress but I have little tolerance for crap.

can someone tell me I am unreasonable and give some advice on how to control my stress ? Gp has advised mind website but I cannot find anything that is specific to helping with stress.

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I’m stressy. I’ve accepted I will be on AD for life as it does help somewhat. I also have propranolol to take as and when, it really helps with the physiological symptoms and does calm me a fair bit.
Mind are useless imo. I do daily meditation (via simple habits app), yoga, avoid alcohol, eat well, walk etc etc all the stuff you are supposed to do but I still stress.
It absolutely could be peri, I was pretty much a basket case from 38. HRT helped massively with the anxiety that hit so bad that by 42 I couldn’t even open my door to delivery men or put the bin out in case I saw a neighbour and needed to interact. What my work thought of me during those times I hate to think!

It's hard. I sometimes tell myself: what can I control? (eg: being prepped well to see a client). What can't I control? (eg: client having had a bad day) and focus more on the ones I control. Stress doesn't help me get good outcomes. I also try to see the big picture & I delegate well.

Did you look at this page from Mind about managing stress? www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/stress/managing-stress-and-building-resilience/

Also, google the ‘window of tolerance’ as learning about this really helped me

I have anxiety, so I've tried different medications over the years, and even avoiding the things that make me stressed (e.g. my manager, which is not easy).

I find that a monthly deep tissue massage (yes, I don't really like being touched, but I went for another reason initially) helps. When I get stressed, my muscles get very tight, so it's nice for them to relax!

I also tried reflexology, out of curiosity. Between that and an Indian head massage, it was lovely and kept me relaxed for weeks!

Medications are now a thing of the past for me, and I hope to keep it that way.

Thanks that’s helpful, I can’t figure out if I’m hyper or hypo, perhaps a mix of both depending on circumstances

Thank you. I’ve thought about trying meds again but after a while on them I feel really flat . But the opposite is the stress. Can’t win. I need to get through the next 8weeks or so at work and maybe see where I’m at.

I'm a natural stress head. Dh always said I'm not happy unless I'm stressing about something. I took up running a year ago and it has changed my life. There is nothing like sticking my headphones in and pounding the streets. After the first 4km I feel like I can take on the world. If I'm feeling particularly stressed I do an interval run and thinking of nothing but the pain I'm in for how ever long then the endorphins afterwards cures me every time.

I'm turning 39 in a week and this time last year I couldn't run a km obviously my fitness has improved but I was not expecting it to change my whole outlook so much.

This is great thanks for reminding me of this. I started running last year but stopped. I enjoyed the feeling of running away 🤣 Think I will try this again x