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To find clothes shopping depressing. It's all the same

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IShotTheDeputyItWasMe · 25/03/2025 22:10

I'm fat and broke so clothes shopping is never going to be fun but its just so depressing. Every shop is selling exactly the same stuff and it's all just so soulless.

20 years ago when I had lots of disposable income, each shop had its own personality. You knew you'd go to Next for suits, Warehouse for something a bit flashy, Oasis for lovely day to day stuff (I miss Oasis, the online shop just isn't the same), Dorothy Perkins for something more grown up etc. Kookai in the sale. I knew that Zara wasn't cut for me so I didn't go there and so on. Some shops were expensive but the material etc generally justified it. You knew there were shops you'd almost guarantee to find something you liked in (Oasis) and others that you just didn't bother with because you didn't like their stuff (River Island in my case).

Now it's All. The. Same.
You could be in Tescos, or River Island or New Look and it's all the same.

Even to my untrained eye, the "alternative" shops are all the same. None of them are original. You could have bought that bat bag from any one of them.

No wonder all the teenagers around me look identical. They have no option to dress any other way or find their own dress sense.

It's so depressing.

Take me back to when you had a choice of what to wear. Or when you'd have "tribes" based on where they shopped. In college there were 3 distinct groups of people and they identified themselves by what they wore but even then there were differences eg if their look was tarton, one person would wear a tartan shirt, another tartan trousers, another one would have a tartan lined coat etc. Nowadays the tartan crew would all just be wearing a red tartan shirt perhaps with different buttons depending on the shop.

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Meadowfinch · 28/03/2025 13:15

YANBU. I'm struggling too.

Most of the high street doesn't make clothes that fit me. I'm 5'8" and a size 10.

I'm building a new summer wardrobe, having returned to the office after working at home in shorts and tshirts for 5 years.

After three months of careful browsing, I've found one jacket, one pair of trousers, three short-sleeved cotton blouses and a dress that fit and aren't made of polyester. At this rate, by June I might have enough to last me a working week.

IShotTheDeputyItWasMe · 28/03/2025 16:33

Meadowfinch · 28/03/2025 13:15

YANBU. I'm struggling too.

Most of the high street doesn't make clothes that fit me. I'm 5'8" and a size 10.

I'm building a new summer wardrobe, having returned to the office after working at home in shorts and tshirts for 5 years.

After three months of careful browsing, I've found one jacket, one pair of trousers, three short-sleeved cotton blouses and a dress that fit and aren't made of polyester. At this rate, by June I might have enough to last me a working week.

When I needed office stuff, I just bought the same item multiple times eg I had the same dress in Blue and 2 black ones. Simply because I gave up!

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ADesignForLife · 28/03/2025 16:35

schnubbins · 28/03/2025 12:38

The smell of cheap plastic clothes full of toxins just makes me turn around when entering some shops .That and the sea of beige and black .Absolutely awful.

I’d never worked out what that smell was - but that makes total sense. Hideous.

socks1107 · 28/03/2025 16:47

Yanbu. For that reason I order to store, collect or get my daughters to collect and then try on in various ways with different options at home.
it’s miserable and my capsule wardrobe feels so boring these days!

Somethingthecatdraggedin7 · 28/03/2025 16:53

Try vintage stuff from ebay, vinted or charity shops. More unique plus better for the planet and your pocket. I never buy anything new except undies, pjs and shoes.

SewingIsMySuperPower · 28/03/2025 17:24

I miss Oasis so much! My sister and I called it 'the mothershop' 😂everything fit me (clearly designed for my body shape) and the prints were just beautiful. I have a few oasis pieces from its early days and they were so well made they're still great. Now it's owned by boohoo I pretend it doesn't exist.

I learned to sew my own clothes so I rarely go clothes shopping. But I agree so many shops are crammed, but have so little choice. Beige, black, navy, white, brown. Soooooooo boring. Somehow, they mostly make the colours boring too. Too much polyester, no pockets, and size inconsistency. Not worth the agro.

SewingIsMySuperPower · 28/03/2025 17:26

PurBal · 26/03/2025 20:41

I can’t sew for shit but thinking about teaching myself because I’m so fed up

Do it!! It's one of the best things I ever did ❤️

Meadowfinch · 28/03/2025 18:13

PurBal · 26/03/2025 20:41

I can’t sew for shit but thinking about teaching myself because I’m so fed up

I don't make my own clothes but I have learned to alter my clothes, add darts, alter hems, adjust seams.

It makes a massive difference. Definitely worth it.

Normallynumb · 28/03/2025 19:09

I can vouch for Hollister jeans. I have 15 pairs of their high rise skinnies
They have every style, colour and colour possible and are good quality

ANagsHead · 28/03/2025 19:23

Fancycheese · 27/03/2025 20:13

Fully agree. It’s absolute shit. If anyone has any advice of where to look for clothes for a woman in her late 30s, who doesn’t want to look 65, please let me know! It’s all overpriced, ugly and awful quality.

If you genuinely think every woman in her sixties automatically takes to overpriced, ugly, poor quality clothes - you don’t really deserve good advice. Grin

I’ve been well dressed all my life, but it’s never been so easy to access such a wide range of brilliant stuff at every possible price. At this particular moment I don’t think I own a single truly poor quality garment.

This season I’ve bought two jumpers. One was a knitted polo shirt from Zara that cost less than £30. It’s cute and Spring-like and enlivens much older tailored things in my wardrobe. The second is oversized and stripy, bought on a whim from a favourite designer after several years of despising stripes. It would have been closer to £600 had I not decided I wanted it at just the moment the sale was on. The first (not terrible, but cheaply made) will probably look good for just a few months, the second I expect to still be wearing in ten years. Pretty sure I could happily have worn both in my thirties (though at the time all my money went on fabulous suits for work).

Valeriekat · 28/03/2025 19:25

Fast fashion: exploitative and damaging to the environment. We should all start making our own clothes again.

suburburban · 28/03/2025 19:58

wherearemypastnames · 28/03/2025 11:03

I live Seasalt - it doesn’t follow trends particularly- you can buy the same style shirt or trousers ten years after the original wears out . It does a range of pallettes so no wondering if my colours are in fashion this year or not. Of course it’s not fashion

Yes I like it too and quality isn’t too bad.

good for basics

however some of the colours can be uninspiring

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