AIBU to not give my Mother a present for Mother's Day?

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I'm very low contact with my Mother. Honestly, I would love to be completely NC but for the sake of my younger siblings I still maintain some semblance of a relationship with her. She can be very emotionally unbalanced so although we certainly don't have a good relationship I try to avoid any conflict.
Anyway, historically I have always bought her Mother's Day and birthday cards and presents, but both events are coming up in the next few weeks and at the moment I'm not doing great financially so I'm thinking of just doing cards this year. I'm sure she'll be disappointed with no gifts, but I just can't justify the cost of even small gifts. I'd also rather post the cards than deliver them in person (she doesn't live close so it'd be a trek for me and I really don't want to see her) and if I were to get gifts too I'd have to pay for postage etc.

Anyway, AIBU to only post cards?

Its fine if you dont want to. I think it depends on whether you want a relationship with your mum in the future. If not (and you want to stay LC or NC) then go for it. But if you do then i would make the effect to get her a little something.

YANBU. Just send a card. As she doesn’t live close, I wouldn’t be sending a present.

You could give her a heads up to explain why so she doesn’t perceive it as a snub.

Just sending cards is fine. It sounds that whatever you do, your mum won't be grateful so if you can't afford to buy any presents, don't feel guilty. I'm sure she doesn't feel guilty about not being a good mother.

My vote: YANBU

Send a card and put a lottery ticket in it.

I’m doing the same this year! Tired of trying to please someone who is in perpetual victim mode and will never be anything other than a covert narcissist. She’s getting a
card and to be honest should be glad I’m even doing that with the way she treats me!
(Might be projecting a bit there 🤣 anyway definitely no, YANBU!)