To move back into the house that my ex won’t sell?!

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I won’t actually move back in but I’m thinking of threatening it at this point as I’m so fed up! Split with my ex in November, I moved out and am now renting. He’s still in the house paying full mortgage and bills etc, joint owners so 50/50 split if we sell. He’s been back and forth on whether he wanted to sell or not and hasn’t given me a definite answer, said he was exploring options re: keeping it but the bottom line is he can’t get the mortgage on his income alone. It needs to be sold, I’ve messaged him 4 times over the last week asking what’s going on with it and he isn’t answering. Do I rock up at the house and ask what’s going on? Do I threaten to move back in since I’d legally be able to?? I need something to actually get him moving on this as I’m in limbo until it’s all sorted! I can’t understand why he’s dragging his heels. Last resort is forcing a sale but it’s obviously £££ and I was hoping we could have sorted everything fairly amicably.

If he’s ignoring you then forcing the sale is the only way to go.

Was it you who instigated the split?
In which case he's only had 4 months to come to terms with it all.
It took me nearly a year to admit I couldn't keep the house and it was a huge wrench to leave - although a good thing in the end.
4 messages in a week sounds a bit like harassment tbh.
Spring is a better time to sell. I suggest you apologise for badgering and offer to do all the legwork involved in the sale. When is the mortgage rate up?
If you think you need to go to court then factor that in. These things are rarely fast.

Understandable to be frustrated, but messaging someone four times in a row is unlikely to have any positive effect now is it?

There was a thread on here from someone in your husbands position, where the ex eas renting their share to a lodger. Just saying!

Are you married?

Do you have any sort of agreement about the house if you are not?

Well if he answered the first time then she wouldn’t need to ask again and again and again

If you want to get your money out then give your ex these options

You can apply to the courts for an order to sell the house. This could mean if he doesn’t get his act together it could mean the property is sold at auction and you both walk away with significantly less than you would get by simply selling the normal way

if you are tenants in common you could always sell your half to another person and although again you wouldn’t get as much for your half of the house he could end up living with anyone.

Or you could get a lodger to live in the place You can then cover your half of the mortgage and maybe have a little bit more income and again he willl be sharing the house with someone he might not like

Or you move back in and put the house up for sale

He has to realise that he can’t afford to buy you out so he needs to sell.
You are giving him that opportunity.
If he doesn’t agree then you or the courts are going to take over and the outcome is either less money for him or living with a stranger

He can’t just bury his head in the sand and hope you are going to go away.