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Midwife has not turned up to see us

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CalmFawn · 25/03/2025 18:37

12days post birth with my daughter. Give birth and had a 4th degree tear (seems to be healing quite well but I need stitches to be checked at this visit) . Breastfeeding but my baby only lost 4% weight at day 3. Due to be weighed during this visit.

although I feel like I’m doing very well ( have a very supportive family and husband), I suffered with post partum psychosis with my previous daughter. Ended up admitted to a mother and baby unit so I am classed as needing additional support.

day 10 - visit was due but they rung to say they were too busy and I was a low priority. I said fine and they said they’d call tomorrow.

day 11. Again too busy and they’d call tomorrow.

day 12 - waited all day today again and no phone call or anything. Rang the contact number at 4pm and the phone was turned off. Rang the birthing unit (where they have a vase) and said I didn’t have a name next to my mine so I wasn’t allocated anyone. They couldn’t tell me when I’d have a visit or anything.

I’ve spent 3 days at home waiting and still no visit. I gave questions, breastfeeding latch issues and I’m not feeling great mental health wise.

am I right to be annoyed or is this normal practice for community midwives????

OP posts:
endofthelinefinally · 28/03/2025 20:51

I was a midwife in the 70s and 80s. IMO the care we provided then was way better. We didn't have the technology and all the fertility treatments, but we would never have neglected patients the way they do now. Post natal care is practically non existant and post natal wards are horriffic places.

MJBear · 29/03/2025 13:40

CalmFawn · 28/03/2025 20:38

Update that they finally showed up today!

she did apologise and said I’d slipped through the net. I am supposed to have input from the mental health team but they forgot to let them know i had delivered my baby.

thankfully they came out today and support seems to be falling in place!

Excellent. Thanks for the update. Was worried about you. Hope the various teams step up and that you are doing ok and it’s all a precaution.
enjoy your new baby

LongLiveTheLego · 29/03/2025 14:38

Daisyrainbows · 28/03/2025 20:47

My mum said they used to visit her daily for months after (midwives and health visitors) and you had way more support. She couldn’t believe I had 2 appointments in totally. She was expecting 2 a week for the first 6 months haha!!

also she stayed in for 10 days after birth and couldn’t believe I had surgery and kicked out in 24 hours. Oh to have a baby in the 80s or 90s sounds like a dream

I had my first baby in 98 uncomplicated birth I was very young. Private ensuite room for 3 days, offer of night nursery ( I declined) and an offer to stay for two more days if I wanted to which was also declined. Amazing experience all England NHS.

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