Any advice - constantly upset about sad stories

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I am crying a lot about sad stories I read. I was just on LinkedIn as I have to be on there for work and I read the saddest story, about a little boy who died from cancer.

I have been sobbing ever since. I’ll be on the train and see something else really sad on the news / on a video. I try not to look but it’s everywhere.

I just feel so sad and I feel like bad things are going to happen to me too. Why wouldn’t they happen to me ? Why wouldn’t I die young or my children die ? Why should I be spared tragedies like this and others aren’t spared ? What’s the point of it all ? Why is there so much suffering?

why is life like this and ends in suffering most of the time ? I also keep seeing videos of the passing of time, kids growing up, people getting old, life passing.

am I having some sort of crisis ? I just want to not think about these things. But I’m stuck in a rut! Anyone know what’s happening to me ??

How long have you been feeling like this OP? I think you probably need to go to the doctors as your hormones might be off.

It’s been more pronounced for about a month.

I also forgot to mention I’ve been having bad dreams, where I can’t find my son for example or my kids faces are full of blood and they’re just motionless on the ground. Or that my mum is dead / dying.

not nice stuff ! Could this be hormones ?

How old are your children? If under a year old it might be some kind of post partum. Sounds very difficult x

3 and 5

Has anything happened a month ago that could have triggered it? Any stress or events?

I would go to the GP as it does sound like something might be off whether your hormones or something else.

Aside from the dreams are you sleeping enough?

I guess work stress has been pretty bad for the last month.

I get like that when I'm really stressed. Add in menopausal hormones and honestly, sometimes I wake up shouting "no, no, no, no!" and scaring the bejeesus out of DH. Your age will have a bearing on things, especially if you have parents who are getting older and maybe developing health problems, it's easy to only see the bad things instead of stopping to be grateful for all that you've got. It does take a bit of time to come to terms with realising that your life is finite. But you do come to terms with it.

It's really really important to aware of social media algorithms. The more sad or maudlin videos you watch the more they will appear. It's then very easy to believe that that's all the world consists of. It's not called doomscrolling for nothing. All my FB reels tend towards the more joyous side now because i've ensured they do. Babies being cute or giggling, pets doing silly things.

If you have Sky don't have 24 hour news channels on. DH likes to watch CNN and oh my god, they overanalyse everything SO much, try to make everything really dramatic. It's really easy to think that the whole world is in a state of absolute crisis, and of course for some people it is, but for many many people in the world life is just ticking along nicely as it's always done..

Thanks for your comment.

My parents are thankfully well. My kids are well, everyone is well. It’s more a feeling that this is not going to last, rather than not appreciating it, if that makes sense ? It’s stupid because I should just enjoy it. But I feel like I’m just waiting for that call. Why should I be spared tragedy ? It feels like it’s imminent