Lonely - friendship group lost - will this ever be better?

[NurtureGrow]

Hello,

I will keep this brief.

I used to have a friendship group for many years. The group broke down because of something one person did. Most of us (not all) still meet individually, but not as a whole group. So my friendship group is not really a group anymore.

We have a baby. On my partner’s side, we don’t see his family much, as out of the country. On my side, we don’t see my family much as they also live quite far away.

I feel alone often. I try to do mum/ baby groups, but without the friendship group I quite often feel ‘up the creek without a paddle.’ I won’t say my exact age, but I am 35+.

My question is, do you think this will ever be resolved.. will I always have this lonely/loss feeling and this is it? Or can I meet or create another group of close friends?

YABU - you will likely always feel lonely now.

YANBU - you can/ will meet new people and have close friends/ a group again and feel true wellbeing again.

Please go gently on me, thank you.

@sweetkitty im sorry you feel similarly. What I’m getting is maybe it’s normal to go through cycles of having more friends and the numbers dwindling.

I guess nothing is static.. so we have to try again in the present to find/ make the friends similar to us now.

I’ve found not making new friends in recent times hard, as I’m naturally very sociable. I’ve also gone round in my mind at times, wondering if I’m doing something wrong etc etc.

But I am going to try to build new friendships. I’d like things to be different later this year, in 5 years, in 10 years etc.

I hope you can connect with more people, if you want to x