WIBU to stay in bed all day

[Morporkia]

For the last 5 years my DHs 20 year chronic condition has been one flare up after another. He is finally on biologics and is feeling better than he has in years.

Over those 5 years I've lost my DM, gone fully NC with my father, had extended family bereavements, DDs relationship dramas, DSs illnesses, my menopause and all the life/house chores and admin.

Today DH has gone out with one of his friends (still not well enough to drive, or walk too far, but wants to go see another of his friends in next town). This is literally the first time he's left the house in months.
And I don't want to get up. It's 1.25pm and I'm still in bed. He'll be back about 4. Obviously I'll get up and cook when he returns but I'm lying here feeling bad for being so lazy.
Aibu or am I justified in wanting a complete break from my life just for 1 day

Would work mind?

God no. Enjoy a bit of peace to do as you please.

If you need to rest you need to rest. There's no shame in that.

You are not unreasonable to do whatever you would enjoy the most if that's staying in bed do that!!

I'm glad the bio is working for DH and I hope this improves his quality of life and yours🤗

Not at all, do it.

My husband went on biological for his autoimmune condition and within one week he was symptom free. I realised afterwards how draining it had been for him, and to some extent to the rest of us. I really hope he feels the benefits soon.

I've just felt so drained for the last few weeks. It's like everything has caught up with me, all at once.
I fell asleep at 6pm on the sofa yesterday. For 2 hours I was out like a light. 11pm I was knackered again. Slept till 7am and dozed on and off till about 9.
I could probably sleep again if I put my mind to it, lol.
My best friend has texted me and told me off for wasting a beautiful day. It's not fucking beautiful. It's cold outside my duvet. I know this because I went to the loo. I haven't even had breakfast and I cba to go down to make lunch.

Go for it!!!

Lay around like you haven't lain around in years. This is a self care treat yourself well day because your body is telling you to take some time out.

My kids and I all feel it when the seasons are changing. A bit tired and not quite up to much, low energy, and a day of lassitude really helps.

That's fantastic. DH started his mid jan and it hasn't taken too long to to get things under control. But we've been here before so I'm keeping everything crossed that THIS time he will carry on responding.
The injections he was on bottomed out after about 6 months. So baited breath time.

Get back in that bed right now and stay there!😁

Well. Coming from such a respected actor is almost like doctors orders,yes?

Sounds like you need and deserve some down time, have the lie in and get up when you feel like it I say

Why can't he cook when he gets back? Stay in bed

Because I don't know what sort of state he'll be in when he gets back.
He was literally bedbound at Xmas. He's excited and enjoying not feeling like an invalid for the first time in half a decade.
I trust his friend 100% to keep an eye on him and make sure he's not over exerting himself.

Can he not pick up some sort of takeaway for you both on his way back? You sound like you need more than just one day off 💐

Absolutely, enjoy it, OP! Order yourself a take away for lunch and eat it in bed x

Hello @Morporkia (great name) I am a very bossy nurse and I’m ordering you to stay in bed. Enjoy it!

My youngest has a chronic health condition and although 95% of the time has enough energy for 10 people not and again he crashes and needs a day on the sofa. He calls it “rotting away” 😳.

So, go ahead and have a nice rot! Fingers crossed for the biologics.

My son says “rotting away” too. Think it must be new teen speak 😜

@Morporkia - your body is telling you in no uncertain terms, that you need this. So, enjoy every second of it. Also agree that a nice takeaway would be the icing on the cake for you. 💐

He's not quite confident enough to eat takeaway yet. The Chinese down the road opens at 5....wonder if DD will pick one up for me. In the mean time I have 3 easter eggs in the wardrobe.

Breakfast, lunch and dinner, then! 😂

You don't need to justify 1 day in bed with having endured 5 years of mental and emotional strain. You're an autonomous human - just stay in bed. Do it once a week if you like.

DD will be picking me up a Chinese and is coming round in 10 mins to prep a shepherd's pie for DH. She still has keys so I don't even need to get up to let her in 😁

I do this often OP. I work nights and also have an autoimmune disease and I never feel bad about it. I need it to function.

This day is a gift for you! You mind and body are crying out for respite. The chores and obligations will wait until tomorrow - and you will manage them all the better for the refreshment of a good day's rest.

I heartily approve of this course of action! 👏

I do this when I have a day off and DH is at work and I just 'need a day'. Menopause, arthritis, low mood and now diabetes along with working full time and running house with 3 adult children.

I stay in bed sleep and watch TV. I go make myself a cuppa, breakfast, stick a washing load in while doing so, and then take it back up to bed. I get up about half hour before DH is due in and hoover or something.

I need these days and by the sound of it so do you.