Career grabbing child’s arm hard?

[sunnyaunt]

Posting for traffic. After school club staff member, male. Child (aged 4) had taken a toy off another child saying no it’s mine etc. The teacher / carer grabbed the child’s arm and grabbed the forearm gripping it really tight. It looked too tight to me but I want to know what others think. The child was trying to wriggle away and he was gripping so tightly that the skin was going white / red, skin twisting up. Then the teacher / carer was bending down to tell child off whilst the child was trying to get arm away. He was talking quietly but had his face quite close to the child’s face. He then let go and the child ran away crying.

I would not grip my own child’s arm that hard, unless in extreme circumstances like danger, grabbing out of the way of a car or something, but not as behaviour management.

AIBU to think the teacher / carer was wrong?

YANBU.

An adult should not be grabbing a child unless there is an emergency situation. And even then it might not be the right thing to do.

I would look on the school website, fief out who the safeguarding team are and give them a factual account of what you saw.

They have probably had no training about safe handling or positive behaviour strategies, so no, I wouldn’t be shocked to see an untrained person doing the wrong thing.

YABU. If the child hadn't been struggling he wouldn't have had to grip it so tight.

@CwmYoyi don’t think that came first iyswim. The carer grabbed and gripped causing the child to get upset and start to wriggle.

Why wouldn’t they have had training though? Surely they all have safeguarding training and basic training?

No, not really. Safeguarding training doesn’t teach anything that would help deal with a behavioural issue and quite often people working after school clubs and holiday clubs have no training. Why would they for a minimum wage job?

Ok, but it’s not ok?

How did you witness this? Do you work there?

Who are you in this scenario op? I would report this if I witnessed it.

A parent picking up my child at the time, and I know the child involved.

How do you know?

I agree it’s not ok. I was just giving an explanation of how things like this happen so easily. Is the after school club run by the school or an external provider. Does the carer you’re worried about work at the school properly, as in school hours?