Just over 6/7 months ago I was out with some friends and bumped into my ex with his friends. It was good to see him and have a catch up. We live in the same town and do occasionally meet.
For context i was with him 9 years, split up almost 15 years ago now. It was amicable, we grew up I guess and were wanting different things. During that time I nursed him for over a year after a major accident. We travelled the world together etc and I have some fond memories of that time. We still have each other on SM but that’s about it.
Anyways the night we bumped into each other, it was good to see him and his mates. We had a few drinks as a group and some photos were posted on SM. He messaged 2 days later, saying it was good to see me and that I was looking good, we messaged back and forth for a bit. Was really just asking how each of our families were doing, no mention of our current lives or partners. He knows I’m married and I know he has a partner.
Fast forward to this weekend and she has messaged me asking if I’m cheating with him or are we seeing each other again. I was honest and said I haven seen him in months and explained about the last time we did meet. She doesn’t believe me and has since messaged my DH thankfully he trusts me. I’ve had various messages about how I’m trying to break up her family etc and to stay away. He’s also been told to watch me as I will do the same with our family.
because of this I’ve messaged my ex asking him to speak to her. AIBU asking him to intervene and telling him she has contacted me. Normally I’m a girls girl and I’m all for sticking up for each other but this is now getting out of hand.
My DH has seen the messages and says some of them could be taken as him still being interested but does agree that it was just friendly chat. Was it unreasonable to spend a few hours as a group catching up? And was it unreasonable messaging afterwards really just chatting about his family and mine?