To be cross about friend reading notes in my house?

[Acunningruse]

I possibly am as there are other niggles regarding this friend which may be clouding my judgement.

We looked after friends dog this weekend (happy to do so, but it still felt like more ‘work’ in terms of mess as v muddy here after lots of rain).

Friend came to pick Ddog up and asked what some of the notes on the fridge meant.

The background to this is that we are really struggling with both kids behaviour (suspected ND) and are in the process of submitting ADHD and autism assessments. Both are very “visual” learners and need things written down eg checklists.

i wasn’t comfortable with friends questions so tried to rebuff in general terms eg “oh just something we did for the kids”. However she kept pushing “what does this mean” what does that mean.

i was quite brusque with her and she left shortly after. Its really rankled with me but Im not sure if it’s just a symptom of being generally quite stressed ar the moment.

AIBU to be cross about family notes being read?

No YANBU - she is a cheeky nosey bugger for reading them and bloody rude to ask you about them !

I sometimes pop in to feed my neighbours pets, I wouldn’t dream of nosing about in her house , even things like notes on fridges - ok I can see they are there but I certainly wouldn’t be studying them or wondering what they mean !

YANBU she should have dropped it when you weren't forthcoming from the start, cheeky moo.

Yanbu. Can't imagine faffing about in someone elses house taking the time to do this. Just get in and get out, eyes down kind of situation, you know. And if I did notice, I absolutely wouldn't ask and then press for an answer. Cheeky madam.

I can understand her glancing at them and idly wondering, but pushing after you made it clear you didn’t want to discuss it is unacceptable. She was very rude.

Agree.
I had a friend like this... who would poke around asking intrusive questions and would then bring it up in conversations with others in front of me.

I found it really hard to shut down the questions without being rude. After a while I realised that they were the ones being rude and if they took offense at a firm shut down so be it.

This was complete noseyness about your children too, which must be really annoying. After you've just done her an enormous favour too.
Be as blunt as you like!

My first thought is - is the friend ND?! 🤷‍♀️😆

MY son does that questioning to death stuff. Even though it's not appropriate to ask,he has a need to just know everything. He's Autistic.

It's just a question! They might just be nosy parkers.

None of her business.

I've done pet care for neighbors and never paid attention to stuff like that. I just did the animal care and that was it.

She seems very nosy.

Absolutely YANBU! She's a nosy cow.

When I was a little kid, I remember my mum getting annoyed at a friend of hers who quizzed her on the appointments that were written on the kitchen calendar. She basically stood there saying 'Oh, I see your DH had a hospital appointment last week, what was that for?' and 'Who are B&E that you're having dinner with next Saturday?'

YAB a bit U
It sounds like friend came round to yours to collect her dog and perhaps had a cuppa? She then asked about notes on fridge which was presumably in full view?
I don’t think unreasonable to ask but def unreasonable to keep asking.