DH complaining he is ill but won’t do anything about it!

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Seriously fed up of DH complaining he is ill but refuses to take any time off work and get better.

He has had what we think is a sinus infection for weeks now and is still feeling rubbish. I keep telling him to take a few days off work and rest / go to the doctors but he just refuses and says it’s not fair on me??!!!! I don’t know what the fuck he is even on about. I feel fine and don’t need the time off, DS is at nursery 5 days a week whilst we work.

I have now given up trying to help and told him he can’t be that ill if he just keeps going to work and then he comes at me saying I don’t care.

Attention seeking and I am fed up of it.

If he really felt that unwell he'd do something about it wouldn't he?

Tell him nobody likes a moaner
or
every time he moans about it, moan about something you’ve got

I'd just carry on saying: "Oh really" and carrying on with what you're doing. If he's not ill enough to snort apple cider vinegar to sort those sinuses then he's not that ill.

I'm of the school of thought that is if you say you're ill but won't do anything about it then you're not really ill and I'm not going to feel sorry for you.

My DH occasionally complains of a headache. Firstly I ask him when he last had something to drink (water, tea etc not alcohol) as he doesn't keep himself hydrated. Secondly I ask him if he has taken a pain killer. If he hasn't had a drink and doesn't have one, and he doesn't take a painkiller if he still has a hedache, then he can just suffer. It's his own fault. I'm not as heartless as I sound, however, if he really is ill then of course I look after him very well.

I have a headache at the moment. I have had plenty of water and taken some paracetamol. I still have a headache. I'm not complaining about it though.

That’s really annoying.

Sinusitis can drag on for ages. He could try the Boots ‘pharmacy first’ scheme. They can now prescribe antibiotics for seven common conditions, including sinus infection.

https://www.boots.com/healthhub/a-z-services/pharmacy-first?srsltid=AfmBOoqbD5QUDtLBRLYpScSnnTHlkulRGyvMgZdZ-LG6OROq_DKT2ekH

"Okay dear" and walking away is a good response if he refuses to go to GP or self medicate. You are acknowledging him but also refusing to give him the attention.

My first husband used to do this so I hooked him doctors appointments. A fe times of the doctor saying there's nothing wrong with you bugger off and he learnt not to bug me with his moaning.