To ask you to help me feel better about losing 6 months of baby photos!!!

[MyCyanFox]

I lost a 6 month period of my daughters baby pictures a number of years ago. I tried everything to get them back, but unfortunately it was not possible.

At the time, it was only me and DD, and we had just moved to a new area. No one else has pictures of her from this 6 month period from being 10 months to 16 months old. It was her first steps videos etc.

Like i said, this was years ago. But every time it pops into my head, I feel like the worst mum on the planet and so guilty for having let this happen!

I don’t know if I’m overreacting, but it really upsets me and time hasn’t helped with that.

Just looking for some advice and words of wisdom to hopefully make me feel a little better, as I feel so awful over it.

I do have some photos from her first birthday, which I took on a different camera. But just a handful.

Ah sorry that’s happened! Of course you will be upset. I’d be gutted! I won’t lecture you on backing up photos as I’m sure you know that now and don’t need the additional salt in your wound!

The only thing I can think of is sometimes apps like instagram save some of them (if you post your child on there, some people don’t).

I lost a phone and hadn't backed up a few months of photos around 6m with my 2nd child. I was annoyed but I tell myself that's life and I've got other photos. At the end of the day healthy kids are the main goal, not being able to look back at every single moment of their early life. Bad things happen and, if that's the bad thing that happened, I'll accept it because it could've been much worse than a few lost photos.

That’s the worst part. I had an iPhone with iCloud, and i lost my phone. I got a new handset and downloaded everything from the cloud. I realised a few months later that it hadn’t fully backed up and I didn’t have the last 6 months of pictures etc. I spoke to Apple, they said my phone hadn’t backed up for those 6 months. I opened a case with them and it was investigated. I didn’t receive any notification to say it hadn’t backed up like you would expect. They had no way of recovering the data as it had never reached the cloud and nothing much came of my complaint. 😔

I'm sorry to hear that you lost important photos.
I understand that it's upsetting!

Perhaps you sent someone a photo via e-mail/Messenger/WhatsApp/another message system?

Try to look forward.
How old is your daughter now?

Thank you. This is a good perpective to have. Sorry it happened to you too.

My daughter is 10. I know it’s ridiculous that I still get upset about this.

Things can go wrong even if it says it’s backing up so it’s best to have multiple places to back up to. Sorry you’ve lost them 😔

The only pics I shared online in that time was her first birthday ones, which I still have. I didn’t use messenger back then the way I do now so hadn’t really sent pics.

It's not ridiculous. You feel the way you feel!

Try to look forward. Look at you daughter. Look at all the other photos you have of your daughter. You are a great mother.

I wish you and your daughter all the best!

Dh lost 6 years worth of our photos as he didn’t back up his laptop & it died (…was pre-cloud era & phones only just starting to have cameras) - I’m missing baby photos of all 3(!) of my kids. I was and am still upset but they’re just photos - I don’t think I’ve ever gone through my mum’s albums of me so I comfort myself that it’s not that huge a deal - the kids don’t give much of a monkeys anyway!

How about this: both of you are still alive. Other families don't have that luxury and would swap places with you in a heartbeat.
That ought you to make you feel better.