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Shewhoknits · 23/03/2025 19:08

OK, will try to keep it short.
It's about a fellow mum I know through school and a local class that we both attend.
In the couple of years I've been in close contact regularly with this mum (think extra curricular activities and also the adult education place we attend), she's had regular seizures. I can't recall the exact name but they begin with H and are some kind of serious episode where she totally collapses onto the floor or blacks out in her seat and her head jolts backwards. She goes unconscious each time and we call an ambulance as well as her next of kin.
These episodes have been getting g more regular.. I'd say every 3 or 4 weeks she has one. Heaven knows who many she has at home or when we're not with her.
The question has been raised, how on earth does this lady keep her driving licence? Would the DVLA allow her to be driving if prone to such regular blackouts and seizures?
It terrifies me to think she could potentially have an episode whilst driving.
Should I report to the DVLA? If so, would it be anonymous?

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Hoardasurass · 23/03/2025 19:11

She should have been reported by her Dr. If you have seizures you must be 6 months free of them before you can drive.
She's going to kill someone please report her

JLou08 · 23/03/2025 19:12

I don't know if it could be anonymous but I think you need to report it. She could cause a serious accident and kill herself as well as others.

Pomegranatecarnage · 23/03/2025 19:13

She shouldn’t be driving. Have you asked her?

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 23/03/2025 19:17

It’s usually a year free of day time epilepsy seizures I think before you can drive. I’d report her to the police and DVLA. Hugely selfish and irresponsible of her to drive. If it’s not epilepsy, it’s less strict, but there are still limitations.

www.epilepsy.org.uk/info/seizures/dissociative-seizures-non-epileptic-attack-disorder-nead

Shewhoknits · 23/03/2025 19:17

No haven't asked her. Although we know her, none of us are sufficiently close enough to broach the question "why the hell are you driving?". She's a rather private person who doesn't really tend to talk about her health or indeed anything outside of our shared interest and school stuff.
Think will have to bite the bullet and report.

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Shewhoknits · 23/03/2025 19:19

No, it's no epilepsy. I originally asked her if that was it but she gave me a name of a condition I'd not heard before. It was something long all I can remember is that it began with a H.

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lucindalucinsa · 23/03/2025 19:21

You can definitely report anonymously. I did about a relative.

noctilucentcloud · 23/03/2025 19:27

I think you need to report as I don't know how you'd live with the knowledge that you didn't if she causes a serious accident. If it helps, think of it as not only protecting strangers that she may injure or kill, but also her children (who I guess travel with her) and her (she'd be up for dangerous driving if she did seriously injure or kill someone).

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