Would these things annoy you?

[catgirl1976]

AIBU or would these things annoy you?

DH and I are going out for a family take away and drinks at DBs. DM is driving so we can both have a drink

DH puts a bag with the wine etc we are taking in the boot. When stopping there’s a massive crash clink from the boot. I say “Oh DH” because I KNOW he will have just shoved the bag in without try to secure it in anyway or giving a crap because he never does.

Then DB texts to say we are getting a take away from x place which we’ve not used before. He wants to know what we want. DH seems a bit off that its a different take away place than normal and says “oh I’ll just have a Jalfrezi I guess”. I said are you sure the menu looks quite nice have a look. He goes “where is the menu?” I mean it’s on the internet obviously I don’t carry around take away menus for everywhere. How does he think I’m looking at it? With my magical all seeing eye?

ThenDM mentions the appeal with the council we have on Wednesday to try and get DS into a different school. I have told DH about this numerous times over the last three weeks and asked him to book the time off or make sure he can attend. DH works for the council though not this area so the meeting is in the SAME building he works in. He asks me what time it is at despite being told 100 times and then goes “oh I might not be able to come we might have a team meeting”. He’s known about it for weeks. It’s really important. It’s in the same bloody building and probably will be about 30 minutes. I have managed book an afternoon off and will have to get a train there and back but I’ve managed it.

Then apparently I am being “arsey” because I’m annoyed about this.

AIBU? I asked DM she helpfully said it was six of one and half a dozen of the other but ffs

The wine and takeaway meh but the meeting would annoy me. My ex would always claim how difficult it would be to get time off for things that us mothers fucking manage to!Because we prioritise it. He sounds like a man-child

Thank you

i have the “bigger” job out of the two of us s well and I’ve managed it. Like I manage taking him to the doctors and dentist and optician and everything else.

Only the meeting would annoy me.

However, if you micromanage the small stuff which doesn't even matter like bottle & takeaway orders, it's no wonder that he doesn't manage any of the big stuff independently.

You have essentially trained him to expect you to manage that to.