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Ungrateful?

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Kajagoogoo89 · 23/03/2025 17:44

Partner was taking a look at the pipes under the sink today as the washing machine water was coming up through the plughole. He took one of my sports bras that was in the "to be washed pile" and proceeded to clean the dirty stinking pipe with it. I said "dont use my underwear to clean the pipe out please" - he said "you are so ungrateful sometimes" - and has spent the afternoon telling me nothing is ever good enough for me and making me feel like i am a really bad person. Ive explained how it made me feel but he said I nitpick and how I react is not normal. He said "however you want to react, do the opposite"
I actually hate him, he makes me feel like shit, I assume I am not in the wrong for asking him not to shove my sports bra down a dirty stinking drain pipe??

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MrDobbs · 23/03/2025 17:54

Kajagoogoo89 · 23/03/2025 17:44

Partner was taking a look at the pipes under the sink today as the washing machine water was coming up through the plughole. He took one of my sports bras that was in the "to be washed pile" and proceeded to clean the dirty stinking pipe with it. I said "dont use my underwear to clean the pipe out please" - he said "you are so ungrateful sometimes" - and has spent the afternoon telling me nothing is ever good enough for me and making me feel like i am a really bad person. Ive explained how it made me feel but he said I nitpick and how I react is not normal. He said "however you want to react, do the opposite"
I actually hate him, he makes me feel like shit, I assume I am not in the wrong for asking him not to shove my sports bra down a dirty stinking drain pipe??

It's a stupid thing to do. The pipe is full of rotting grease so anything that is used to clean it is going to end up in the bin and that's hardly secret knowledge.

Perhaps, being super generous, if someone was totally absorbed and focused on the task they were doing of unblocking a pipe, and just grabbed the first thing to hand to get it done then realised afterwards that it was a stupid mistake to do so, it could be understandable.

But to then not admit it was stupid afterwards and turn it into an attack on you on top, is completely shit.

Uncomm · 23/03/2025 17:55

Why are you with him if you hate him?

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