I split from my husband 3 months ago. We didn't live together as we tried at the start but my son who has Aspergers wasn't happy and that made me unhappy. He's a good kid but is very private and has some quirky ways which I don't mind. He's 20. After many rows between me and my husband he moved out and got a flat but we agreed to continue the relationship. Basically, I got fed up with his underlying resentment of my relationship with my son and me being there for my son. He called my son a cunt to me on drink a few times over the 5 years so there were fallouts as you could imagine. He drinks too much. After the last snarly text message I got one night from him about something petty I ended the marriage. Now he is messaging and saying can we not be friends and can I see our dog. The dog is fine. She lives with him anyway and is very well looked after. I have a dog of my own who takes up a lot of my time but I adore her. I've avoided seeing the dog as I don't want to get into face to face chats with him. That's the only reason. He says he's lost his best friend etc. I'd prefer a clean break. Am I being too soft replying to his messages lately? I'm not going back to him as I'm doing fine. I just worry he will suck me in again if I converse over the dog etc. Do I just tell him it is what it is and to get on with his life? I'm supposed to be meeting someone in a couple of weeks for a drink. Nothing more than that as it won't come to anything. He lives too far away. If my husband knew he would go ballistic but I think it's my life now and I can do as I like. Do I make a clean break and go no contact?