I'll try and write this so it makes sense!
I can fit into UK sizes 8 and 10 and my housemate can fit into UK sizes 14 and 16 so there is a difference in clothing size between the two of us.
My housemate hoards clothing. This doesn't impact my space so I'm OK with it up to a point, but sometimes the house can become quite messy when she buys more and uses the communal areas to place her clothing for the time being before she takes them upstairs. She struggles with her weight. She'll happily make comments about other people and their weight, but as soon as someone says something about hers she can become defensive/upset and has said before "Making comments isn't helping me" and "They know I'm not in the right mental state to lose weight". She has tried different diets, but it only lasts for about a couple of days or a week before she gives up.
She has asked myself and her mum with helping her throw things out on different occasions, but barely anything gets thrown away and even then, she'll buy even more stuff. She also has a bit of spending money problem which my housemate admits to. My housemate has said there is no reason why she keeps hoarding clothing. We tried different methods like if it's too small or if you don't wear it within a certain time frame then donate it, but that doesn't work. Some clothing are far too small and some even have the labels on.
I was getting rid of some clothing that I no longer wanted and put them into two piles; one for donating and one for the bin and left them near the front door with labels so I knew which one goes where.
My housemate and her mum came back and almost immediately my housemate asks what I'm doing with the bags and I explained what they were and where they are going. She happily says she'll take them and I tried explaining the plans for them and that she already has plenty of clothing. She was adamant that this will motivate her into losing weight. Her mum then says "She's (me) right. You have more than enough clothing that you need to go through. You don't need anything else".
It became almost a shouting match with my housemate and her mum with my housemate saying "You lot are always making me feel bad about my weight. I know I need to lose weight. I don't need to be being reminded all the time" and her mum saying that she didn't say anything about her daughter's weight before my housemate stormed to her bedroom.
I apologized to her mum as I felt I caused this and she said it was fine and I didn't do anything wrong it's just her daughter making the situation worse for no reason and as far as she knows no one in the family has said anything about her weight so she didn't know who she was referring to. Also aparently they had a good time out so she wasn't too sure what caused that reaction from her.
So far my housemate hasn't come downstairs and hasn't said anything to me. Did I do something wrong?