What would you think if an ex said this?

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I would just like opinions because I’m in two minds about it.

Okay so you broke up with an ex in 2012, you speak very briefly recently and he ends the message with “ If you’re ever in (his town) and bored. Let me know and we can laugh about how stupid we were back then”

Is that someone just being polite, an invitation like sir, what do you mean?

I’m just curious to how other people would interpret it really - my message before he said this was a very polite way of ending the conversation I was like “ I’ll let you get on with your day” sort of thing.

I’m just thinking about it and it being slightly odd haha.

Sounds like he's after a shag

Are you both single? Sounds like he might want to hook up!

I think he is saying not to go out of your way or make a special effort but that it would be nice to see you and reminisce about old times if circumstances allow.

Agree with the first answer. It’s very common for exes to get into contact for that reason.

I’d assume it was a flippant sign-off, I wouldn’t read anything into it.

He is asking if you are ever near his town then do u want to meet for a shag

Going through the modern equivalent of the "little black book" of numbers.

If you've been split up for 13 years, I wouldn't give it too much thought.

I'd see it as him denigrating what we had. How stupid were we to think we were right together. Or he wants an easy shag.

He’d quite like a shag without the hassle of leaving his house and dating.

Who made the initial contact that this was part of?

It’s a bit complicated but I messaged him a bit after we broke up about something, nothing that required a response really but he didn’t see it until recently because it went into his message requests and the we just chatted like six messages about life in general and a very polite sort of superficial way and I ended my message with “ I’ll let you get on with your day” & he replied with that and like it’s not a big deal or anything but I was wondering if it was just a flippant sign off but it’s just weird to say and like honestly I wish it was a hook up invitation but it absolutely was not. It’s really not his style and he wouldn’t need to speak to me for it haha but I was just wondering - it’s not something I’d say to someone I guess but I won’t be speaking to him again so I’ll never really know.

Would he expect you to be going his way?

If you're passing through occasionally (and he knows it, and it's not with your family), that's asking to meet up.
If you've emigrated, he's being polite...

Based on the info in your second post, is breaking up in 2012 a typo?!

It’s sort of in the same area of where we live, well where I live now cos he’s moved there but it’s like 20 minutes away .. yeah tbf if I was on the other side of the world I would have thought he was either stupid or being polite

It's just a polite way of saying if you're ever around he'd like to meet up. I dont see it as an attempt at a shag or anything like that, it's just him being friendly.

No, it’s been a really long time since I’ve spoken to him 🤣 he apparently doesn't know much about Facebook and didn’t even know I’d messaged him which I can believe tbh - I’m definitely overthinking the message but was just wondering what other people would think of it.

He's perhaps just being friendly in what might be a slightly awkward conversation. What he said has come across as being a bit cryptic but you'll find he was just trying to say goodbye. I wouldn't read into it too much.

Obvs it’s ambiguously put - hence your query on here. But he’d be up for sex definitely & was testing the waters. And you both can use the pretext of “ever being in his town again” as an excuse to hook up. Whether he’d be up for more is unknowable but he’d happily rekindle for sex that’s for sure.

He’s just being friendly.

In all honesty, I’d love the opportunity to do this. Not in a an angling for shag kind of way, more, didn’t we have fun but haven’t we moved on kind of way. There was something about them to make you like them originally, you had shared good times. It’s not weird to want to reminisce about shared experiences without wanting to recreate the naughty times

Same.

I wouldn’t read anything into it. He is saying it might be nice to reminisce if you are ever in the area. Probably doesn’t expect you to take him up on it. I have maybe 5 exes - 2 long term, 1 med term, 2 short term (but friends too) that I would be happy to catch up with over a coffee but I wouldn’t want to shag any of them.

I'll let you get on with your day is quite leading and needy though.

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