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it's gracefully decline

152 replies

Montymorency · 21/03/2025 20:18

not graciously. just saying.

OP posts:
LighthouseTeaCup · 21/03/2025 21:26

I decline gratuitously and gregariously

TheOtherAgentJohnson · 21/03/2025 21:26

HaddyAbrams · 21/03/2025 21:21

Gratefully decline sounds to me like you're grateful you can't come. Not that you're grateful for the invite.

Agreed, gratefully decline sounds very wrong—sarcastic. If you're doing something gratefully you're glad to be doing it. Most of the time I am grateful to decline invitations, but I wouldn't say that part out loud.

Gracefully or graciously make sense, but you wouldn't say either of those would you? You just do the thing graciously / gracefully.

WiddlinDiddlin · 21/03/2025 21:28

Montymorency · 21/03/2025 20:28

you see you're grammatically incorrect. i expect you also pronounce the letter h 'haitch' . i rest my case.

It is also normal to start sentences with an upper case letter, and capitalise 'I'. I see you haven't bothered so grammatical rules don't seem to apply in all cases.

I am not sure what case it is you are resting, are you a grammar lawyer?

EffortlesslyInelegant · 21/03/2025 21:28

So are we saying that 'Fuck no I'd rather eat my own hair' is, in fact, not a graceful OR gracious way to decline?

ForestFox44 · 21/03/2025 21:28

Who cares 😆

mindutopia · 21/03/2025 21:29

They mean different things. I suppose it depends how it is you actually want to decline. I’d much rather be gracious than graceful personally.

EmpressaurusKitty · 21/03/2025 21:29

EffortlesslyInelegant · 21/03/2025 21:28

So are we saying that 'Fuck no I'd rather eat my own hair' is, in fact, not a graceful OR gracious way to decline?

Grumpily declining?

WearyAuldWumman · 21/03/2025 21:33

Montymorency · 21/03/2025 20:28

you see you're grammatically incorrect. i expect you also pronounce the letter h 'haitch' . i rest my case.

Capitals?

valleyofthetramadols1 · 21/03/2025 21:33

DownWhichOfLate · 21/03/2025 20:43

Myself would disagree. (Why? Why do people use “myself” when they mean “I”?!)

Actually, they don’t. They use “myself” when they mean “me”.

ramonaqueenbee · 21/03/2025 21:33

I would gratefully accept and graciously decline. Gracefully decline sounds like you do a little pirouette.

BumbleBeegu · 21/03/2025 21:34

I’m embarrassed for you! 🥴

alwaysdeleteyourcookies · 21/03/2025 21:34

LaPalmaLlama · 21/03/2025 20:27

Pretty sure you decline graciously and age gracefully

Yes, this.

C152 · 21/03/2025 21:34

HaddyAbrams · 21/03/2025 21:21

Gratefully decline sounds to me like you're grateful you can't come. Not that you're grateful for the invite.

I agree completely! I thought the first poster who mentioned 'gratefully decline' was being tongue in cheek but, given so many others have suggested it, perhaps they weren't!

TheSilentSister · 21/03/2025 21:35

I think it's either (ee-thur) or either (eye-thur) - lol.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 21/03/2025 21:35

When you never wanted to go to the wretched work thing in the first place and your vague attempts at getting out of it have only led to somebody offering you a lift out of the kindness of their heart, the manager who realises you'd rather boil your own eyeballs than take part in team bonding and wellbeing exercises and announces that unfortunately, you're needed to stay behind and complete an incredibly important task gives you the option to gratefully decline, as well.

WearyAuldWumman · 21/03/2025 21:35

WiddlinDiddlin · 21/03/2025 21:28

It is also normal to start sentences with an upper case letter, and capitalise 'I'. I see you haven't bothered so grammatical rules don't seem to apply in all cases.

I am not sure what case it is you are resting, are you a grammar lawyer?

They can't be serious. I've only known of two people with pretensions who chose to omit capital letters. One was e.e. cummings; the other was my idiot uni boyfriend.

We now have a third.

alwaysdeleteyourcookies · 21/03/2025 21:36

ChunkyMunck · 21/03/2025 20:49

I always gratefully decline 😬

Ha!

BitOutOfPractice · 21/03/2025 21:36

You ok op? Because you’re wrong wongity wrong wrong

BumbleBeegu · 21/03/2025 21:36

JustSawJohnny · 21/03/2025 21:25

How the feck do you gracefully decline something?

With a gloved hand wafting airily about and a gliding walk?

Or in a tutu en pointe 🩰

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 21/03/2025 21:37

https://eduinput.com/gracious-vs-graceful/

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 21/03/2025 21:38

BumbleBeegu · 21/03/2025 21:36

Or in a tutu en pointe 🩰

Not with my cankles!!

FortyElephants · 21/03/2025 21:39

Of course it's not gracefully. How can you decline gracefully? You decline with grace, ie graciously not gracefully!

MyDeftDuck · 21/03/2025 21:39

Montymorency · 21/03/2025 20:28

you see you're grammatically incorrect. i expect you also pronounce the letter h 'haitch' . i rest my case.

Some of us do know how to start a new sentence with a capital letter........I rest my case!

Honeypickle · 21/03/2025 21:39

HaddyAbrams · 21/03/2025 21:21

Gratefully decline sounds to me like you're grateful you can't come. Not that you're grateful for the invite.

Thank you so much for the invitation. We would have loved to have come but must gratefully decline.

BumbleBeegu · 21/03/2025 21:39

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 21/03/2025 21:38

Not with my cankles!!

🤣 or my knees! Would not be graceful at all…more disgraceful in fact 🤦‍♀️😬