Dh didn’t stick up for me

[Hurleysmom]

I feel a bit odd as DH and I went out today and a guy was either flirting with me or harassing me. He commented about my hat which had 66 on it and said I prefer 69- right in front of DH. I moved and ignored the guy but he kept coming up to me saying 69 while I waited for DH and asking for our food. Him and his friends were all staring and pointing at me. It was so embarrassing. I like laid back guys who don’t look for trouble but in this instance I felt so uncomfortable. DH didn’t say anything. I wasn’t expecting him to have a fist fight with this guy but I feel like that crossed the creepy line and he should’ve at least said I was his Mrs so the guy knew to back off.

Well, yes, it would have been nice if he had done something.

But then again, what would you have done if you were on your own? Don't be a wet dishcloth waiting to be rescued by your man. Stand up for yourself!

Do you need a man to rescue you? I would have told the guy sharply to piss off. Did you just say nothing?

Unfortunately when a man gets involved with another man it can get aggressive and maybe physical. Your DH may have decided to not let this creep goad him into escalating things . Anyway you can't argue or shame morons like this . Just ignore is maybe best .

he should’ve at least said I was his Mrs so the guy knew to back off If you were standing or sat with your DH, then I’m pretty sure he’d guessed you were together and he just didn’t care. Was he drunk? He doesn’t sound sober.

I like laid back guys who don’t look for trouble but in this instance I felt so uncomfortable If you’ve chosen to marry a man who’s quite laid back and placid, then it’s not going to be a massive surprise that he doesn’t tell a seemingly drunk bloke to piss off in front of a crowd of his lairy mates. You can’t have it both ways.

Are you not capable of telling him where to go. Something along the lines of you have more chance at getting a 99 than you do a 69. What woman in their right mind wants some kind of creep harassing them when they go to.....

Men need to learn to stop harassing women, not because they’re with another man, but because the woman turns round and tells him to fuck off.

is it just me wondering about the hat you were wearing out to dinner with 66 on it….

How would you have dealt with this if you were in your own? Sounds like your partner knows you don’t like confrontational men and didn’t want to be that person as you don’t like it. Personally I would have felt more empowered to say something knowing I had some back up behind me.

i would not expect my DH to say anything in this situation. It can inflame things. I would have just got away from the moron who said this.

Yeah I wouldn’t want to inflame the situation. I’d be happy just knowing DH is there and witnessing/incase but also happy he didn’t try to step in and stuff get heated.

I would have also tried harder knowing DH was there to not inflame the situation myself. If I was on my own I’d have torn the guy a new arsehole.

I don’t need a man to tell another man that what he’s said is inappropriate because I’m his territory, and DH would be well aware of that. I’m perfectly well capable of telling someone sharply to piss off off my own bat.

I would have loudly asked if he was still 15, how utterly bizarre. I can't imagine my DH not stepping in, but equally can't imagine me not having sent him back to his chair first. Also where were the staff? You can say "excuse me, this man is harassing me" to get additional support in future.