Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

For wanting my own space

1 reply

Hurleysmom · 21/03/2025 18:23

DH’s family are staying for 7 days. I have seen them everyday and as I’m a SAHM of 3, youngest 8 months, we can’t see enough of each other. I feel completely drained. Having kids and a baby is hard enough without people around 24/7. I do like his family so I’m not complaining directly about them. I just don’t want to have to always be around everyone. I want a moment for myself. We went out today all together, just like yesterday and the day before. I’ve only had one day to myself this week. DH wants me to spend every waking moment with them. There is a games night tomorrow that I do not want to go to. I’ve already spent many days out this week and sat down for meals which actually, with a baby, was not enjoyable. I told DH and family to go without me and I’f stay behind but he just told me he already booked for us all to go despite my wishes. I feel horrible talking behind their back like this. It’s nothing against them I just feel so mentally drained. He hasn’t seen my family in about a year and when he does he escapes off into the bedroom by himself. It’s his family I shouldn’t have to always be around. Sorry if that sounds horrible. Aibu?

OP posts:
Savyonblanket · 21/03/2025 18:53

Just say no. Set your boundaries.

‘I’m too tired to go out tonight - have a lovely time’

‘ I have to go to… I’ll be back at 6pm’

‘I’m going up for a bath and early night now - night night’

not rude - just factual.

you are not asking permission to not go to events / not join in - you are telling him.

you are an adult not his child. You are his wife not his maid.

he goes off when your folks are about - you are entitled to do the same. Everyone needs space no matter how much we love others.

put your foot down - firmly and lovingly.

you are in control of you and what you do - not him.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread