Seeing my elderly mum

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Mum and I live close. We get on very well, but I've always known she's very set in her ways and can be controlling. She looks after my 2 pre teens regularly while I work (about once every other week). I am a single parent who works part time and a lot of evening the kids are busy with clubs or seeing friends. Normal family life.
Mums also pretty busy with clubs she belongs to and looking after her pets. She may be older but she's very healthy and active.
Bumped into her this morning in town. She was frosty with me and told me she only ever saw me when I wanted her go have the kids!! This is a regular statement of mums.! But I text her every day, we often go out for the day at the weekends. I'm fed up of feeling like I never give enough!
She could also pop to mine, but doesn't often.
So am I bring unreasonable not visiting her more?

So am I bring unreasonable not visiting her more?

That's your decision once you've worked out the cost of childcare etc.

I’d probably try and approach it with kindness to see what she really means. Not saying you’ve done anything wrong but might allow her to open up and describe what else she is expecting.

I would say 'Mum, that's not true & we're always happy to see you but we know you're busy and have your own life. How about we put some dates in the diary to do things together?' She was probably just in a grumpy mood, don't take it to heart!