A birthday one

[countrygirl99]

Would IBU to bury my husband under the patio today?
Im a pretty adventurous type and usually happy to push the boundaries of my comfort zone but there is one activity I really cannot push myself to do and he should know that. In the 49 years we have been together, whenever he/a friend have done this activity or it's been the feelgood section of the news (e.g. 90yo war veteran does it for charity) I've always said no way am I jumping out of a plane unless it's about to crash and my life depends on it. I really, really hate the idea. The very thought of it makes me want to throw up in fear.
Guess what he booked for my present. He realised pretty quickly he'd tucked up. My face dropped, I shook, burst into tears and asked him why the fuck he thought it was a good idea.
Not only was it a horrendously bad idea but he's got the adult DC to chip in so it's my only present.

send him up instead???

happy birthday btw

Yanbu at all, I've done it once and hated it, I would never do it again

What possessed him?

If you're burying him under the patio, make sure he does the digging first.

Happy birthday op 💐 🎂 🥳

What a dick move, I would ask for the value of the gift and buy myself something else.
I would also pay the instructor to put a hole in his parachute when he does the jump.

That may well have been the plan

He's been told to try and get the money back and think again. I can't believe what an idiot he was. I've told him he also has to explain to the boys, I'm not bailing him out on that one.

He's done one before not long after we got together. Injured his knee and it's given him problems ever since!

Take it as his birthday present and he can get you another.

Happy birthday. digging

I think you’re response has been the right one - telling him to get the money back and think again, and that either way (money back or not) this is not your present and he has not bought your present. Your present is still to come.

Even if he didn’t do this deliberately, its spectacularly thoughtless to not have taken on board what you’ve said over the years.

great idea,

But I also know what the real upset is - that he doesn't KNOW or REMEMBER.

I had something very minor, very similar a while ago. I can't actually remember what it was but DH bought me something I think that I can't stand. Something silly like nougat. Even DD, when he gave it to me said, "But Mum HATES xxx". Dh actually got quite huffy about it but I think it's because he was so embarassed.

It's weird I can't remember what it was.

I'm sorry he's been a dick about this. Id' be upset too.

What a dick head. If you’ve been together 49 years, I’m assuming you are late 60s, early 70s? What a stupid bloody present. I’d be furious. It’s the sort of thing you would buy for someone who had always wanted to do a parachute jump.

I’d tell him ‘You’re a fucking idiot, I’m furious, what a waste of money. I literally would rather have been given a £20 Yankee Candle and a nice meal out’.

I’d tell the children ‘Sorry kids, don’t mean to be ungrateful, but if you paid me ten grand I wouldn’t want to do this. No idea what possessed your Father to buy this present. I’m 69 for heavens sake!

That’s my idea of hell,even the thought makes me feel sick.Your DH has got some serious grovelling and making up to do .Happy birthday 🎂

It's definitely spectacularly thoughtless and not deliberate. He know I love trying new stuff - last year was a scuba diving experience which was brilliant. I just can't think why he didn't look at this option and click it was a bad idea. If you gave me a list of 100 activities and said you can do 99 which one don't you want to do it would have been this one. He said " but you liked parascending and I had to point out that starting on the ground and going up a couple of hundred feet isn't the same as jumping out of a plane at 13,000 feet!

@Moveoverdarlin 66. Big present for my officially an OAP birthday.
I've got an idea to suggest later. We are going to Belize in May and I wanted to do the ATM cave but it's outside his comfort zone and a full day so I found something else we could both do. I'm going to put that forward but need to check it can fit in the itinerary (just for me but so tempting to make him do it now.)

I'm having the foundations dug on Monday, if you want to bury his body.