To think a lot of middle aged men have a miserable disposition? Or is it just my DH?

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I get so frustrated with DH and how he comes across. He’s mid forties and whilst he’s always been a little serious and has a serious job, the miserable disposition has got worse as he’s aged. I find it incredibly rude and find myself over compensating around the kids to keep things upbeat. Is it just my DH?!

If so many women 'desperately' want children and feel their lives are incomplete without them, why is the birthrate dropping so dramatically throughout the majority of developed countries?

Perhaps a majority of women (although I'd define it as over 50% rather than 99% which is what you seem to be suggesting) want children but that is not at all analogous with doing anything to achieve that, or feeling their lives are incomplete without them!

And even of the women do have children and are very happy that they have had them, they still find raising them bloody hard work, stressful, exhausting, and sometimes disappointing, not an ecstasy of continuous fulfilment.

Your posts remind me of the rejoinder to that old "most men are leading lives of quiet desperation" nonsense, i.e., what, and most women are leading lives of noisy fulfilment?

Also @latetothefisting I think it's nonsense that it's just women who want the babies. Most men I know - including my own brother, my DH and his brother, and many of my friends husbands, have always wanted children. This whole annoying trope about how women hold men at gunpoint to have children as the men really don't want them really pisses me off.

And shocker, yes, some women don't want children these days - OR husbands. SOME women can live a very good life single.

I will just say one thing op ‘wait until retirement’. If you think it’s bad now you are misguided.
Sorry!