AIBU here? Friends rants.

[PowerInvestedIn]

For context, im currently in hospital with my 6mo DD, who has a suspected case of severe flu. In the last 44 hours her temperature won't go below 40, she's not drank more than 500ml of water or milk, hasn't slept at all and is more crying than she is silent. I'm obviously very worried and running on empty right now.

My friend has messaged a few times and is annoyed that my replies aren't fast and I'm apparently not responding/listening to her correctly. I admit my responses are pretty brief but she's clearly in a depressive state and all she is sending are lengthy woeful rants. I have told her that I'm preoccupied with DD right now but this evening she has turned nasty and said some quite hurtful things. For example, she said I'm a disgusting shameful person who said I should be at home bathing DD and giving her fruit not taking up hospital space and poisoning her with medicine. How I'm a disgrace of a mother and if DD dies I will only have myself to blame, as it will "teach me a lesson".

Stupidly i responded but i think its time to end the friendship. I don't really know why I'm posting tbh, a rant, a handhold. Sorry 😔

You should not continue any communication or relationship with such a person. I don’t care how depressed or whatever she is, that’s just horrible

Christ what a disgusting individual. Depression doesn’t make you behave like a piece of shit, she’s just vile. Glad you blocked her OP!

What a despicable individual. You did the right thing in blocking her. Don't ever unblock her or give her the time of day again. Now, don't give her anymore headspace, concentrate on your DD and I hope everything is going well

Doesn't matter really

She's awful and she's not your problem

You're where you need to be and I hope your baby recovers soon

@PowerInvestedIn my little girl was hospitalised with the flu at 2yrs old. It was terrifying luckily she got some Tami flu and 4 days later she came home. Kids bounce back quickly. Have you got any support to get you some food or drink? No need to comment on friend as it's already been said. Next steps - try and get some respite in real life. You need some support as well it's traumatic when you see your kid so poorly. X

So there's nothing whatsoever in this friendship for you. Don't give her another thought, just block her and concentrate on your baby. Very best wishes for her swift recovery. 💐

She sounds quite unwell to be honest. Anyone with a gramme of self-awareness would realise how inappropriate that is given what you are going through. I assume there's a long back story to this and she's been leaning on you for some time.

Whatever the backstory is, you don't need it now so don't go there and focus on your child.

Frankly I would ditch her because I think life is too short to be an emotional punchbag for anyone. If you really value her then maybe once your DD is better and you are at home and settled send her an email urging her to get help and saying you are not able to provide the level of support she needs.

Whatever you do, don't focus on it now.

The comment about your sick daughter dying would teach you a lesson is unforgivable. I don't think I could get over that tbh.

She’s certainly shown her true colours. They’d be no coming back from this and the friendship would be well and truly over. Hope your dd gets better soon. I’m very sure hospital wouldn’t give her a bed for a measly bug.

You deserve to have supportive friends. I hope your baby gets better soon - she’s in the right place, look after yourself if possible too. Ask people for support so you can get a shower and food etc.

I never met her, yet I hate her.

You did the right thing blocking , now don't unblock , what a disgusting thing to say to you.

I'm quite shocked at her words OP. That sounds unhinged in any situation.

I agree completely block for now and when DD is better and you are not so exhausted have a think about it all. Either she is having some sort of breakdown or she is just a nasty person who needs dumping.

My mouth fell open at that message!! Concentrate on your baby and get rid of the friend..
She's barmy.

Your friend is insane and you should absolutely never speak to her again. She’s a) horrible and b) nuts. Block her on everything and don’t give her another thought - you’ve got enough on your plate with your DD.

I hope your DD gets better soon and that you can get some rest. You must be so exhausted. Sending you all my good wishes x

She's a bitch. Block her and concentrate on your daughter.

I am glad you have blocked her.
Never unblock her.

Nobody would ever speak to me like that and then be let back into my life.

She is no friend! Good that you’ve blocked.

Block her, you don’t need friends like that. Hope your DD is feeling better by now

Sorry, you cannot describe her as a friend. Glad you've blocked her. Move on, you don't need people like that in your life. Hope your DD is better soon x

She's no friend. Cancel her. Hope DD improves

She's not a friend at all.
Even in my darkest moments I've never said anything close to what she's said.
I'd keep her blocked for now, take screen shots of her messages as evidence, and then when your DD is home, I'd message her to tell her the friendship is over and why. Keep the screen shots in case she tries to get others on her side.

Oh my goodness, what horrid words! She’ll probably regret her outburst but she can’t take back what she has said. I’d have nothing more to do with her.

Keep her blocked. She is not your friend. I hope your little one gets well soon. Enjoy your drama free life! ✌️