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Childhood bullies who have no idea they are horrible?

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Beautifulweeds · 20/03/2025 20:46

School reunion (30 years) which was fantastic and so glad to have gone. We've all lived life now and are much more confident than our school days.

During the night and several drinks, you end up chatting to a minority in the group who made those days uncomfortable.

One was a complete bitch and was just so mean for no reason, apart from the fact I accidentally hit her friend with a football. Whenever I saw her she spouted venom, pushed me, told me no one liked me. On this night she couldn't remember any of it.

Another one, he used to threaten me and throw stones, had no memory of it.

Yet another, I felt totally humiliated by her, she made fun of me, taunted, challenged my best friend friendship with another girl.

Last one, was a good friend then became mean at times, tried to take all my friends from me, I finally broke and we had a big physical fight, she started it.

I know this is nowhere near gang beating up but personal and from a different era.

Thing is, as victims, it's a huge thing for us, but seems as bullies it's just a daily occurrence with lots of people so they don't even remember it!

They've all grown into well rounded adults, with kids, who would hate them to be treated in this way.

Life eh?? Xxx

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mumofoneAlonebutokay · 20/03/2025 20:49

So did you bring it up to them at the reunion?

I'm sorry girl - I was bullied so badly and I wouldn't attend a school reunion as it would be too traumatic

I can imagine they just brushed it off though, they know exactly what they did

wastingtimeonhere · 20/03/2025 20:59

They may claim amnesia, they know exactly what they did. I wouldn't go to a reunion because of scenarios like this and in most cases the bullying idiots end up still smelling of roses as adults too. It would rub salt in the wounds.

MelainesLaugh · 20/03/2025 21:01

When I was in therapy my therapist told me to reach out to my childhood bully for closure on how she made me feel. So I did. She didn’t remember anything and basically accused me of lying and blocked me. I feel your pain

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 20/03/2025 21:01

I wouldn’t go near a reunion. Bullies are adept at rewriting the past

Cattery · 20/03/2025 21:09

People don’t stop being bullies. They just change their methods as they become adults.

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