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Help me understand this reaction

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NameChangeShhh · 20/03/2025 17:04

2 months pregnant, second DC, losses and pregnancy struggles. High risk pregnancy so I’ve already been in hospital - seen baby and the heartbeat.

Over the next few weeks I have events coming up with my mum that would be difficult to fully engage in while pregnant. We decided to tell her, to keep the baby safe and to avoid her thinking we were being difficult about events.
When we told her, we explained we’d seen baby and heart beat and explained why we were telling her at only 2 months. She gasped and became a little emotional hugged both myself and my partner then changed the subject. I then told her when I was due and she said “I wish you hadn’t told me, you shouldn’t have told me.” When I asked her why she said “It’s like I might be bad luck, you’re not telling anyone else are you?” I explained we wasn’t and again reinforce why we had told her. I really felt quite hurt. I was so excited to tell her. Would anyone else feel upset by this reaction? She’s not superstitious at all. I generally have a good relationship with my mum. This reaction really hurt me. I told her because I want to make sure this pregnancy it protected. Make her reaction make sense, please 🙏

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YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 20/03/2025 17:06

She's scared for you, and she'll be worrying for you.

Sminty2 · 20/03/2025 19:09

She’s just worried for you and in her emotional state of happiness about the baby, she just vocalised a thought that she wishes she could undo. Words can’t affect you and your child. My dad went on and on about how I would have a boy as he’d seen 4 Magpieson the morning I told them. I had a daughter 😊 x

RoastDinnerSmellsNice · 20/03/2025 19:14

Don't take it to heart OP, your Mum was clearly happy to hear your news, but then suddenly realised that things still might not go to plan, however careful you are during this pregnancy, and got a bit panicky, thinking that your telling her would put some sort of curse on the baby. A bit Friday the 13th sort of superstition, no substance behind it, but lots of people refuse to do things simply because it's Friday 13th.

MyUmberSeal · 20/03/2025 19:16

You are over reacting OP. I’m sure she’s delighted and was being a little superstitious.
Hope the pregnancy goes well. x

NameChangeShhh · 20/03/2025 19:36

Thank you everyone! Seems I’m just being a tad emotional. ❤️

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