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Nobody is allowed to choose not to work. Fed up of hearing this expression.

697 replies

girlfriend44 · 18/03/2025 21:18

I keep hearing people say people who choose not to work. Target them.
Nobody is allowed to choose not to work. I wonder if some people actually know what they are talking about?

Nobody is allowed to just lounge around and not look for work.

Able bodied people on UC who don't have a paid job are harassed all the time.
They will probably be attending interviews at the jobcentre once a week, where they have to provide evidence they are jobsearching 35 hours a week.

They can be sanctioned over any little thing.
They have to attend any courses they are sent on, even if they are useless courses. Non attendance will end in a sanction.

The staff can arrange interviews on their behalf if the employer has a tie up with the jobcentre which some do.
If it's deemed you didn't try hard enough at the interview, the employer can discuss this with the staff,and you'll be hauled up and sanctioned for not trying.

Those who think people choose not to work please be educated.
It's a hostile environment for anyone out of work.
Not every able bodied person can find employment.
Your not just allowed to sit at home and choose not to work though.

You'll have a claimant commitment and you have to provide evidence of jobsearching. 35 hours too.

I think alot of people who comment don't really know. Everyone is under pressure.
The days of just signing on once a fortnight and not having to.prove your doing everything you can have long gone.

OP posts:
Whammyyammy · 19/03/2025 08:55

tfresh · 19/03/2025 08:47

OP I think you're quite naive. It may shock you to hear this, but some people will lie about things to get what they want

Agreed. There are so many sites etc that detail what you need to say to be awarded pip etc.
Hardly a good system when there are cheat sheets to be awarded.

Whammyyammy · 19/03/2025 08:57

Annajones101 · 19/03/2025 08:14

This pretty much sums up the benefits system. It’s a gravy train for millions of shirkers. The system needs cuts so deep that there is no scope left for this free lunch to continue.

Amen

OneAmberFinch · 19/03/2025 08:59

Maverickess · 19/03/2025 07:44

A quick Google tells me a nurses average salary is around £33k and a care assistant between £26k and £31k, nursery worker around £30 (qualified).

All contributing towards society with the work they do. Financially shouldn't be the only way to quantify contribution, because without at least the last 2 roles - how many people preening themselves for being net contributers are going to actually be able to earn that without using those services? Maybe they should be putting their money where their mouth is and paying more for them, so there's more net contributers - all for the greater good isn't it? That or they can look after their own children and frail, ill and elderly relatives.

If the government is going to spend (our) money on either public sector salaries or benefits, I'd rather they gave more to the actual working employees yes

Kendodd · 19/03/2025 08:59

Annoyeddd · 19/03/2025 08:49

Good luck there mate - where are the jobs

I live somewhere with seasonal work, they can literally just walk into these jobs and some of them have before. They just have to email and ask when they can start. Some of them have said they don't want to work there this summer but if they don't find anything else, tough, they'll have to.

Hdjdb42 · 19/03/2025 08:59

My siblings choose not to work, they havent done so for over 20 years. They sabotage all interviews, so they are never offered a job. They love being on benefits, as they are exempt from council tax and claim dla for a minor disability. They openly brag about it, and say they feel sorry for me working! I am not kidding! There are people out there that enjoy benefits as a lifestyle. Disability can be a big additional income, there is NO incentive for them to work!

Pickledpoppetpickle · 19/03/2025 09:02

friendlycat · 19/03/2025 00:29

Because one lot (your words not mine) are expecting to be supported by tax payers for not working, whilst the other lot are supported by their working partners.

and frequently (not always) also supported by benefits.

Patterncarmen · 19/03/2025 09:03

TwigletsAndRadishes · 19/03/2025 08:42

You are so right that 'you are better off in work' absolutely doesn't hold true if you are only able to do a low paid, low skilled job. We've really created a monster by allowing wages for basic blue collar work to stagnate for so many years by taking an endless influx of cheap foreign labour while simultaneously creating a benefits system that pays as well as that work, or even more in some cases, if you know how to play it right. You can't exactly blame people for preferring to take advantage of that.

Edited

Precisely. Really, why would people slave away at a job that barely pays the bills if they can do better being on benefits? Folks say that work is fulfilling etc...some work is fulfilling, but there are jobs that are just unrelenting, repetitive, dull, and physically arduous. Stacking boxes, checkout work, cleaning houses comes to mind. Those who get by without work and say people are mugs for doing it kind of have a point. People are more than tax payers, work slaves and/or consumers, much as governments wish they weren't. Most governments wants as much tax revenue as possible, for women to reproduce to produce more workers for tax revenue, for the citizens to be obedient and do as they are told, and for the elite to enrich itself at most people's expense. Some are more overt about it than others.

A consumerist social hierarchy is promoted so people compete for better houses, status symbols, etc. It is risible. People will work all hours for a designer bag with a label, or a house in a certain neighbourhood, or a certain car. And then advertise it on social media. What a trap. Even education which is supposed to be about self development is all now about employability to make as much money as possible to have these status symbols.

I retired early as soon as I could. I'm precisely that type of person in their 50s that the government is trying to encourage to go back to work to plug a skills shortage, or I suppose they want me to volunteer my time. Nope. I have enough money, don't take benefits, and happy enough to have my time to myself and enjoy life, far from the madding crowd.

I think the anger against those on benefits is because people know the above deep down, and they don't like the fact some folks figured out how to escape.

Pickledpoppetpickle · 19/03/2025 09:03

Kendodd · 19/03/2025 08:59

I live somewhere with seasonal work, they can literally just walk into these jobs and some of them have before. They just have to email and ask when they can start. Some of them have said they don't want to work there this summer but if they don't find anything else, tough, they'll have to.

so seasonal - not year round. Minimum wage, 0 hour contracts, by any chance? So no actual guarentee of work?

whatistheworld · 19/03/2025 09:05

TheCluelessMum · 18/03/2025 22:11

A family friend has been deemed “not fit to work” under UC. However works cash in hand jobs 5 days a week.

please report them! you can do it anonymously

OneAmberFinch · 19/03/2025 09:08

Whammyyammy · 19/03/2025 08:55

Agreed. There are so many sites etc that detail what you need to say to be awarded pip etc.
Hardly a good system when there are cheat sheets to be awarded.

Sites that people on MN seem perfectly aware of when someone asks for help with their PIP application but conveniently forget the exist of when someone says there might be people taking the piss...?

TheWombatleague · 19/03/2025 09:11

In the transition from feudalism to capitalism, if you were found not working you could get tied to a cartwheel and whipped. Seems harsh really, having been kicked off the land and had your ability to house and feed yourself removed and then forced to sell your labour.

Now, the descendents of those forced into selling their labour see it as the natural order and some wouldn't be averse to bringing the practice back.

CantStopMoving · 19/03/2025 09:12

op - How can anyone be proactively looking for work for 35 hours a week? That seems completely bonkers. Even someone relatively looking for work will only depend an
hour a day surely checking for new roles listed, interviewing etc. no one can make looking for a job a full time job.

Teethhelp · 19/03/2025 09:18

It's called benefit fraud and it's a HUGE problem.

TheBunnyLover · 19/03/2025 09:20

Gemmawemma9 · 18/03/2025 21:21

But this is not the case for everyone.
i know someone who chooses not to work, she has literally no reason to other than she doesn’t want to. She’s qualified in nothing and doesn’t want to lower herself to working in a supermarket.
I am sick of it to be honest.

I know someone who hasn't worked for over a decade. Had a business that failed and just decided he couldn't be bothered.

Has been on UC for ages and is now early 60s. He did go to the Job Centre once a fortnight and was given jobs to apply for, applied for one perhaps two I think, but that's it. Won't apply for many as he doesn't want them. Rents privately,whinges about money a lot.

Crikeyalmighty · 19/03/2025 09:20

@9fthighfence I totally agree with the you re the lady who was raging-

Anonimouze · 19/03/2025 09:20

MIL chooses not to work and hasn’t for the past 10 years.

She gets PIP for anxiety and mental health problems. She is perfectly able to work (or was when she stopped, maybe not so much now but she’s still only 60)

thankyounextplease · 19/03/2025 09:21

@Patterncarmen I definitely agree that we need to work on entry level jobs so that have a purpose or a progress trajectory or people can see what else they can go into.

But I pity people who choose not to work because they have no pride in providing for themselves and their families + they've never found something that they love to do that they also get paid for. Everyone should have the chance of that.

A lifetime of filling out paperwork and attending pointless appointments to jump through hoops and tick boxes for a very small amount of money to scrimp by sounds depressing. People starting out in low paid jobs progress if they want to so are in a much better position further down the line.

I don't see it as beating the system at all, I see it as settling for the bare minimum. I have a friend who I consider beating the system who only works a few hours a week in a public sector job because his investments pay him enough to live on. There are things like that that are definitely beating the system, benefits isn't one of them.

TwigletsAndRadishes · 19/03/2025 09:22

Patterncarmen · 19/03/2025 09:03

Precisely. Really, why would people slave away at a job that barely pays the bills if they can do better being on benefits? Folks say that work is fulfilling etc...some work is fulfilling, but there are jobs that are just unrelenting, repetitive, dull, and physically arduous. Stacking boxes, checkout work, cleaning houses comes to mind. Those who get by without work and say people are mugs for doing it kind of have a point. People are more than tax payers, work slaves and/or consumers, much as governments wish they weren't. Most governments wants as much tax revenue as possible, for women to reproduce to produce more workers for tax revenue, for the citizens to be obedient and do as they are told, and for the elite to enrich itself at most people's expense. Some are more overt about it than others.

A consumerist social hierarchy is promoted so people compete for better houses, status symbols, etc. It is risible. People will work all hours for a designer bag with a label, or a house in a certain neighbourhood, or a certain car. And then advertise it on social media. What a trap. Even education which is supposed to be about self development is all now about employability to make as much money as possible to have these status symbols.

I retired early as soon as I could. I'm precisely that type of person in their 50s that the government is trying to encourage to go back to work to plug a skills shortage, or I suppose they want me to volunteer my time. Nope. I have enough money, don't take benefits, and happy enough to have my time to myself and enjoy life, far from the madding crowd.

I think the anger against those on benefits is because people know the above deep down, and they don't like the fact some folks figured out how to escape.

While I agree with almost everything you've said, I do think people fail to see that they can gain a level of satisfaction and mental wellbeing from doing jobs that aren't necessarily dynamic or glamorous. Not everyone is going to be capable of getting a fabulous, exciting and highly paid job but too many people seem to think that's a good enough reason to opt out of life and not bother with anything at all.

You absolutely can feel better about yourself and your life by doing fairly humdrum jobs and doing them well and with a smile. It gets you out of the house, it gets you socialising and contributing to society, if it involves moving around or being on your feet all day then yes it's tiring, but you'll lose weight and stay more mobile and you'll sleep far better after a day's honest work than you will after a day slumped on the sofa in your PJs watching shite on telly and feeling a bit more anxious and useless than you did the day before, filling the massive void in your life with junk food or cannabis.

The trouble is, we've enabled this warped mindset of entitlement and infantilisation, mixed with fear and helplessness for so long it's almost impossible to turn the container ship around in time to avert a massive existential crisis for our country as we know it.

Teethhelp · 19/03/2025 09:26

I know people who worked their ass off when they lost their job and were absolutely hounded by the Job Centre. Told they needed to apply for supermarket work etc, which they were wildly overqualified for. Should they take a NMW job would lose their modest house as their income would barely cover mortgage and bills with a newborn.

Then there's the benefit fraud lifers who haven't worked in years, claim carers allowance for people who definitely don't need care, and live a comfortable life with ease.

System is messed up

Teethhelp · 19/03/2025 09:29

CantStopMoving · 19/03/2025 09:12

op - How can anyone be proactively looking for work for 35 hours a week? That seems completely bonkers. Even someone relatively looking for work will only depend an
hour a day surely checking for new roles listed, interviewing etc. no one can make looking for a job a full time job.

Easily, if you are motivated. Applying for a job probably takes half a day if you fill in the questionnaires carefully etc. Then preparing for an interview can take a few hours, then if there are second interviews, they require prep.

Kendodd · 19/03/2025 09:29

Pickledpoppetpickle · 19/03/2025 09:03

so seasonal - not year round. Minimum wage, 0 hour contracts, by any chance? So no actual guarentee of work?

Why are you putting all this negativity on a student summer job? These are perfect jobs for my kids over the summer. Would you put all this negativity on your kids getting these jobs? That they might as well stay in bed? Actually, if you are claiming benefits yourselves I could see how a student summer job might mess things up for you and not be worth working. I'm not claiming any benefits though and my kids absolutely will be 100% getting up off their backsides and getting a job in the summer whether they like it or not. Your kids can just stay in bed if they want, not my business.

TENSsion · 19/03/2025 09:31

The majority of my family- 5 uncles, my dad, numerous cousins- have all chosen not to work.
It is absolutely possible.

Crikeyalmighty · 19/03/2025 09:32

@LifeIsBadEnoughAlreadyWithoutThis why are you saying it’s you fucked though- I’m truly sorry things are really shitty for you but if you are that ill - and you say terminal- then you won’t be affected , so I dont understand your outpouring of rage .

TENSsion · 19/03/2025 09:36

Pickledpoppetpickle · 19/03/2025 09:02

and frequently (not always) also supported by benefits.

Could you share the statistics on this?

Question285 · 19/03/2025 09:36

Teethhelp · 19/03/2025 09:29

Easily, if you are motivated. Applying for a job probably takes half a day if you fill in the questionnaires carefully etc. Then preparing for an interview can take a few hours, then if there are second interviews, they require prep.

Which people all over the world manage to do while holding down full time jobs. How do you think people change jobs?