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Nobody is allowed to choose not to work. Fed up of hearing this expression.

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girlfriend44 · 18/03/2025 21:18

I keep hearing people say people who choose not to work. Target them.
Nobody is allowed to choose not to work. I wonder if some people actually know what they are talking about?

Nobody is allowed to just lounge around and not look for work.

Able bodied people on UC who don't have a paid job are harassed all the time.
They will probably be attending interviews at the jobcentre once a week, where they have to provide evidence they are jobsearching 35 hours a week.

They can be sanctioned over any little thing.
They have to attend any courses they are sent on, even if they are useless courses. Non attendance will end in a sanction.

The staff can arrange interviews on their behalf if the employer has a tie up with the jobcentre which some do.
If it's deemed you didn't try hard enough at the interview, the employer can discuss this with the staff,and you'll be hauled up and sanctioned for not trying.

Those who think people choose not to work please be educated.
It's a hostile environment for anyone out of work.
Not every able bodied person can find employment.
Your not just allowed to sit at home and choose not to work though.

You'll have a claimant commitment and you have to provide evidence of jobsearching. 35 hours too.

I think alot of people who comment don't really know. Everyone is under pressure.
The days of just signing on once a fortnight and not having to.prove your doing everything you can have long gone.

OP posts:
Tangerinenets · 19/03/2025 07:27

Gemmawemma9 · 18/03/2025 21:21

But this is not the case for everyone.
i know someone who chooses not to work, she has literally no reason to other than she doesn’t want to. She’s qualified in nothing and doesn’t want to lower herself to working in a supermarket.
I am sick of it to be honest.

And she claims benefits?

London22 · 19/03/2025 07:31

A few years back I was living in a refuge. We were encouraged to "heal" and not work. I had to give up my job- due to relocation. My goodness-I was bored!!!! I have my job now and I like my own money and routine.

But I met a few women during my time there and (not to judge) who purposely decided not to work.

One because of her anxiety- but she has no problem socializing and dating weirdos. She seemed well and spends her days doing the school run for her one child and arranges dates during the day.

One because of her ADHD and her childcare around her now 4yr old. (She has 3 kids). So she claims PIP and disabled care element for all two of her children and is now trying to claim for the youngest- citing neurodivergence. She claims so much money- she effectively doesn't need to work.

One a single woman- who claims PIP and spends it on scratchcards and is not financially savvy.

They were all lovely women and would make excellent employees. But they found a loophole and they flaunt it. I've never met people who deliberately choose to not work. It was eye opening.

Tangerinenets · 19/03/2025 07:34

Introducingme · 18/03/2025 22:27

Some people know how to play the system.
A friend went to school with DH in the 1970's.
Has never had a job. But knows what to claim.
I'm sure that a lot of people know someone who
has never had a job.

Exactly and then others say it’s a tiny minority when in reality it isn’t.

IVFmumoftwo · 19/03/2025 07:34

FartyAnimal · 18/03/2025 22:30

There are plenty playing the system. A 36 year old nurse I know works term time, 3 days a week and tops up with universal credit rather than work 4 or 5 days a week.

I don't see the issue with that? It might mean she gets helps with her rent.

IVFmumoftwo · 19/03/2025 07:36

London22 · 19/03/2025 07:31

A few years back I was living in a refuge. We were encouraged to "heal" and not work. I had to give up my job- due to relocation. My goodness-I was bored!!!! I have my job now and I like my own money and routine.

But I met a few women during my time there and (not to judge) who purposely decided not to work.

One because of her anxiety- but she has no problem socializing and dating weirdos. She seemed well and spends her days doing the school run for her one child and arranges dates during the day.

One because of her ADHD and her childcare around her now 4yr old. (She has 3 kids). So she claims PIP and disabled care element for all two of her children and is now trying to claim for the youngest- citing neurodivergence. She claims so much money- she effectively doesn't need to work.

One a single woman- who claims PIP and spends it on scratchcards and is not financially savvy.

They were all lovely women and would make excellent employees. But they found a loophole and they flaunt it. I've never met people who deliberately choose to not work. It was eye opening.

Edited

The one with the ADHD will be buggered when all the kids grow up and she loses all the child related benefits.

curious79 · 19/03/2025 07:38

I actually know someone who has worked out how to game the system. They’ve overstated their mental unwellness and now collect £2400 pcm. That’s a significant pre tax salary

Clarefromwork · 19/03/2025 07:39

I don’t think OP realises that although there are processes in place to make sure people claiming are looking for work, it doesn’t actually happen, unfortunately.

OneAmberFinch · 19/03/2025 07:39

NiftyGreenEagle · 19/03/2025 06:12

Best friend with terminal cancer has to work. She's on very strong pain meds and manages it.

We've had a neighbour who spends all day in her garden and visiting friends - definitely well enough to work but doesn't. DH has several family members who have had back pain/ mental health/ ME. All are over 45 and have never worked.

Most people I know get up prior to 6, home late, pay high taxes. Why are we putting in such long hours for others to do nothing? Other countries have limits for how many months you can claim which seems very reasonable to me. Taking away benefits isn't taking away someone's oxygen!

Other countries seem to run their unemployment systems in a much more sensible way, which is to give you a pretty high % of your previous income for the first few months and rapidly scale back. It is clearly a system designed to be a safety net for people who are usually employed but unexpectedly lose a job, and in the meantime have financial commitments they can't easily get out of, so they don't lose their good credit etc and spiral down.

I don't see what the point is of someone being on a benefit for being "out of work" for years/decades on end.

DeepRoseFish · 19/03/2025 07:41

Mamofboys5972 · 18/03/2025 22:42

I choose not to work and to be a stay at home mam and housewife. We are a 1 wage family, no UC or benefits. It works out financially better for us, taking into account nursery fees and childminders etc, we would be no better off with us both working. The house would suffer, the kids would, we would be making our life 10x harder for barely an increase in monthly incoming. Not worth it. We are lucky that we can afford to live on 1 wage thankfully. Both very good with money and have no reoccurring luxurys to pay for. Works great for us!

All well and good until your husband leaves you…

Autumn38 · 19/03/2025 07:41

girlfriend44 · 18/03/2025 21:28

As said, if she's claiming she can't just say she dosent want to work.

You say people have to provide evidence of job searching 35 hrs a week.

Well, yes, when you are out of work but need to pay for things of course your primary activity should be finding a job. If you are truly committed to finding a job then much of your week will be researching jobs, visiting workplaces, making applications and then going to interviews. Then the time you’d spend following up on unsuccessful interviews to find out why you weren’t chosen so you can improve for next time…..

9fthighfence · 19/03/2025 07:42

London22 · 19/03/2025 07:31

A few years back I was living in a refuge. We were encouraged to "heal" and not work. I had to give up my job- due to relocation. My goodness-I was bored!!!! I have my job now and I like my own money and routine.

But I met a few women during my time there and (not to judge) who purposely decided not to work.

One because of her anxiety- but she has no problem socializing and dating weirdos. She seemed well and spends her days doing the school run for her one child and arranges dates during the day.

One because of her ADHD and her childcare around her now 4yr old. (She has 3 kids). So she claims PIP and disabled care element for all two of her children and is now trying to claim for the youngest- citing neurodivergence. She claims so much money- she effectively doesn't need to work.

One a single woman- who claims PIP and spends it on scratchcards and is not financially savvy.

They were all lovely women and would make excellent employees. But they found a loophole and they flaunt it. I've never met people who deliberately choose to not work. It was eye opening.

Edited

Why do you get more disability benefit for each child? Where is the extra cost coming from?

Maverickess · 19/03/2025 07:44

Tangomangofandago · 19/03/2025 06:35

Sorry a quick google says it’s £41k a year. If you earn less than this you’re a net negative IE you contribute way less than you take out (for example NHS schooling etc etc etc)

A quick Google tells me a nurses average salary is around £33k and a care assistant between £26k and £31k, nursery worker around £30 (qualified).

All contributing towards society with the work they do. Financially shouldn't be the only way to quantify contribution, because without at least the last 2 roles - how many people preening themselves for being net contributers are going to actually be able to earn that without using those services? Maybe they should be putting their money where their mouth is and paying more for them, so there's more net contributers - all for the greater good isn't it? That or they can look after their own children and frail, ill and elderly relatives.

Anjo2011 · 19/03/2025 07:47

We all know/know of people that are taking advantage of the system and getting away with it. To say this doesn’t happen is extremely naive. That’s the reality.

HRTQueen · 19/03/2025 07:48

JustAnotherPoster00 · 19/03/2025 07:15

Everyone 'who knows soneone' always sing from the same hymn sheet and all it does is make people with disabilities lives harder and harder, online and in real life because each new hoop put in place to satiate those who have held onto their biases against disabled people from outdated knowledge of the benefits system and then self sooth themselves with the phrase 'I support genuinely disabled people'

Have you not read the news have you not seen the huge increase in people claiming to be unable to work in the last five years

something is very wrong in this country that so many people are unable to work and the numbers are increasing

not one person on here is suggesting those who are genuinely unable to should be forced to and it’s unfortunate that when this is in the news they feel targeted but we can not sweep it under the carpet

many of us have experience in our lives of people who have no intention to work and feel the state should support them simply because they have no desire to work

while the vast majority believe that the state should help those who are genuinely in need of support be this temporary or for life the majority do not feel it should be lifestyle choice even if the choice is to live off very little it’s still a choice some rather woudl make than commit themselves to work

the increase in numbers is utterly staggering and this has to be dealt with

ScarlettSunset · 19/03/2025 07:48

I've had a couple of episodes of unemployment and my experience was very much as the OP has said. I even had a home visit to check I wasn't secretly working (not sure how that would work now with a lot of remote and hybrid working). I had to take in details of every job I applied to, every interview I attended, and how long I had spent searching for work.

At the same time, my exh chose not to work just so he didn't have to pay me any child maintenance. He was working cash in hand sometimes and would openly brag about it to me but I had no evidence to prove it and he had officially been deemed unfit to work. He made a miraculous recovery though the very next day after our son reached the age where no more child maintenance was expected.

I don't know HOW my exh did it, but he definitely played the system and beat it.

Swiftie1878 · 19/03/2025 07:50

girlfriend44 · 18/03/2025 21:36

They can't be signing on....or actively jobseeking for benefits. You cannot choose. Things were massively tightened up in 2013.
Detailed diary of jobseeking and 35 hours a week too is required.

Job seekers allowance is different to disability welfare payments.

Mightymoog · 19/03/2025 07:51

LifeIsBadEnoughAlreadyWithoutThis · 19/03/2025 05:29

Well, that would be me and a lot of other genuine PIP claimants completely fucked now, wouldn't it, because a great many of us can't get to the pub in order to be judged by a panel of drunken booze stench addled bigoted pissheads. I can't even get to my own front door. If there was a fire in my big block of flats, I'd have to wet my finger and shove it in the plug socket to save myself the horror of being burnt alive. If my DH loses his job, I'll have to do it anyway, to save myself from dying a slow painful (more than I'm in already) death of malnutrition and cold. It nearly happened once already and I don't fancy a repeat of that trauma nor a worsening of the permanent damage it left behind.

People with the mindset you appear to be displaying seem to want the ill and disabled to die in misery, just in case one faker gets away with £68 a week they deem them unworthy of. A judgement they feel they have the right to pass on behalf of everybody, in blind ignorance, and only until they're the one who is chronically ill.

Would you also suggest the death penalty for all accused with a crime just in case one guilty person gets off on a technicality.

Or, maybe a less expensive option. Anyone accused of a crime should have to prove themselves innocent in front of your panel of pissheads. Maybe the pissheads should be allowed to stomp to death anyone whose "shit" they don't buy. After all, it would save a lot of money for their taxpayer selves and what could go wrong.

And please don't try to pull the "that's not the same thing" argument, because it is. You obviously think the sick and disabled are more likely to be faking it than be genuine so hang 'em all.

"while keeping genuinely disabled people mostly intact?"
"MOSTLY INTACT"
What the fuck?

Just think...

All those hospitals, SMH, full of lying doctors, seeing perfectly healthy people and making up a bullshit diagnosis. Doctors, hauck-tua 💦, bunch of incompetents lying bastards.

Yes. Yes. Everybody who shows up in front of a doctor might be lying to get benefits. Should close down the entire medical industry. It's not needed. Just tell the lazy fuckers to "get back to work".

Here I am, lying my perfectly fit and healthy arse off, up in the middle of the night because I ate too little to stop my bile ejecting itself up my sinuses as I slept. While I'm up, I should hop up on my numb dead infected feet and crawl to the factory over the road, see if I can give them a hand while Dave and Steve sleep their taxpayer's drunken stupor off. Not sure if I will get much done inbetween bouts of vomiting and pissing myself with the force but I need to at least try in order to please the likes of some.

slight over reaction......

madamweb · 19/03/2025 07:51

HRTQueen · 19/03/2025 07:48

Have you not read the news have you not seen the huge increase in people claiming to be unable to work in the last five years

something is very wrong in this country that so many people are unable to work and the numbers are increasing

not one person on here is suggesting those who are genuinely unable to should be forced to and it’s unfortunate that when this is in the news they feel targeted but we can not sweep it under the carpet

many of us have experience in our lives of people who have no intention to work and feel the state should support them simply because they have no desire to work

while the vast majority believe that the state should help those who are genuinely in need of support be this temporary or for life the majority do not feel it should be lifestyle choice even if the choice is to live off very little it’s still a choice some rather woudl make than commit themselves to work

the increase in numbers is utterly staggering and this has to be dealt with

Exactly this. People outright faking but also people who think because they aren't 100% healthy they shouldn't be asked to work.

Meanwhile there are other quite profoundly disabled people who do work, and who are reluctantly, through taxes, helping to pay to support the lifestyle shirkers.

Noone is suggesting the most disabled people should work. Indeed this governments proposal is that those people should be helped to get more benefits, to have a better life, which is something I wholeheartedly support

London22 · 19/03/2025 07:51

IVFmumoftwo · 19/03/2025 07:36

The one with the ADHD will be buggered when all the kids grow up and she loses all the child related benefits.

Oh I agree.

She's aware. As she already told me, she had the youngest after the government 2 child limit of claiming child benefit and she found a loophole in that- claimed she was co-erced into having another child. This I am not disputing- this does happen in abusive "relationships," and it can't be proven to be wrong.

However she had a pregnancy scare last year and it showed me, that she knows how to work the system. She also was awarded £16,000 in back pay for her eldest for his diagnosis. It didn't matter how I told her to save the money and use it correctly, when she asked for advice. This went in 3 months, due to the abusive ex, her generosity with users and she's not financially savvy at all. I was shocked that they give this type of money out.

However I now keep my distance from her, as she still leads a chaotic life and I don't want that in my life.

London22 · 19/03/2025 07:53

9fthighfence · 19/03/2025 07:42

Why do you get more disability benefit for each child? Where is the extra cost coming from?

This is not me. I'm not sure to be honest. I think there is a higher care rate and a lower care rate- what defines this- I'm not sure.

Ginmonkeyagain · 19/03/2025 07:54

People like that do exist. As others have said it is often more complex than simple laziness - it can be deeply ingrained learned behaviour from childhood and if not addressed early people can become genuinely unemployable.

It is enraging but I also feel sorry for people like that, it's no life really - spending hours finding ways to avoid work, constantly behold to government policy. It feels like such a waste of life and potential.

I am lucky enough so far to have only had two short periods of unemployment where I claimed JSA. There is no way I would have been able to genuinely spend 35 hours a week job hunting. I didn't get any hassle or asked to provide any evidence of searches. However I think that is more to do with the fact I was on contributions based JSA and frankly my job coach saw I was likely to get a job quickly so left me alone (I already had an interview lined up by my second signing on date).

Mightymoog · 19/03/2025 07:55

JustAnotherPoster00 · 19/03/2025 07:00

OP my sisters neighbours best friends hairdressers aunts next door neighbour knows how to play the system although she's meant to job search for 35 hours a week she just tells them she doesn't want to work and they all applaud her and tell her she's amazing, my uncles girlfriends dog walkers sisters boyfriends best mate says he has mental health issues and he goes parachuting, mountain climbing and is the lead singer of a very famous band so no way he has anxiety as he claims, he even brags about it, he gets £58483757483384737 a week on DISABILITY benefits and he gets a brand new ferrari every week on MOTABILITY, he has 900 flat screen tvs and 300 smart phones

The anecdata some of these melts will use to try and punish those with disabilities and in poverty knows no bounds because they'll all give it 'if they genuinely can't work then they should be supported' while knowing they don't believe anyone is genuine

why do you not believe so many people's accounts?
Do you not think the "anecdotes" tally with the massively high welfare bill?

Annoyeddd · 19/03/2025 07:55

But where are the jobs I know several young people still looking for their first proper job. They are working (at nmw) but even entry level jobs are asking for experience

Wakeywake · 19/03/2025 07:58

Tangomangofandago · 19/03/2025 06:33

Probably worth highlighting that most people who earn under I believe it’s around £30k ish are actually a net negative in society IE they take more from the state than they put in, anyway.

But that's fine, there will always be people who are not net contributors because their jobs aren't bringing in that sort of money (it's higher than 30k). They are still paying into the system and contributing to the economy through their work. I take exception to individuals who don't even try to work or work the bare minimum required because the state is there to keep them.

Goingncforthisone · 19/03/2025 08:00

"The days of just signing on once a fortnight and not having to.prove your doing everything you can have long gone."

And why wouldn't you be doing everything you can to find a job?