Inconsiderate neighbours

[Bobblesandwool]

I would really like some advice. For some reason I have the bad neighbours, she plays her music far too loud, like thumping beat you can hear through walls! I have tried 3 times when we have set up the arrangement where I call her when it's too loud and it works great, until she gets too high on drugs and tells me to f* off!

I am literally at my wits end, this weekend was the boiling point for me, when I was woken to her music, at 11pm, which went on for 3 hours, I could hear it through the walls and when I politely asked for her to calm it down she told me what she thought of my idea.

This resulted in my calling the noise team, whose letter of warning is due to drop any day now. Trouble is I have been through this before, she'll kick off and I feel I always have to make exceptions because she blames mental health etc when I know it's all drug related.

Has anyone had to deal with similar before? I own my own house and she lives in a housing association property?

Can anyone give me advice, to help see me through this?

My current plan is when she starts knocking, just say I'm sorry I've tried too hard, 3 times we have had the same arrangement and when you get all high, you decide to tell me f* off, and I don't know what you expect me to do. I'm really sorry I'm not just going to sit and take it?.

TIA for any help given, maybe just a place to offload and talk about it might help

Does the council have any way they can evict her if she's a constant nuisance? Maybe speak to her landlord/housing association? It sounds awful, you have my full sympathy. Nosie pollution is linked to heart disease and all manner of health issues. Maybe raise that with the council/HA too

Definitely not unreasonable but I wouldn't hold my breath for anything changing with a letter. I've known people to literally poo in the stairway and smash windows and nothing is done.

We ended up moving unfortunately

I had a similar situation once. They finally knocked the noise off and went to bed about 3am. I had to get up for work at 5am and when I did, I tuned the radio to a jazz channel and left it on loud volume upstairs for 90 minutes. Things calmed down after that!

I had the same, every night, 7pm-7am because we once asked the neighbours to turn down the music in the flat above our bedroom. I’m afraid I moved. The buyer had full disclosure, including that we’d had to call the police when the wanker punched me in the face. He didn’t care. I’m now very sensitive to noise and shitting myself about moving next year. I’m paranoid, I’m aware, but have had great neighbours for many years. Ideally, I’d prefer no neighbours.

The next door neighbour also moved, after living there forever. We all called environmental health, who threatened to remove his equipment, he didn’t care, he’d already told me where he was from (according to him a ‘bad’ area of SA) and that criminal behaviour was the norm. Total wanker. I hope she moves, OP, because I doubt very much that anything will change.

Yes so her housing officer is also involved, and they managed to help out last time. But when they help it's only for a short while she listens and then goes back to 'her normal' again. They did say if the council go to fine her in court, they can try and go for eviction for breach of tenancy. I'm just fed up of living next to this! She had it on all weekend, nothing Monday and back on full blast today, just outside me on total edge! It's so unfair!

On Saturday night she was even caught screaming towards my direction on the doorbell camera about how she was going to terrorise me! To which I rang 101 and they said no joke ' how did you know it was to you' ' did she say your name' to which I explained, well she didn't say to the wind!

This is honestly what I fear will end up happening. She will hurt me or damage property because let's be honest people like her dont care on bit about others.

I really don't want to move from my house, it's in the ideal location for us at the min but know something has to give..

I don't know if I am being so utterly stupid just digging my heals in! I mean eventually it'll be either me or her to go.

I'm not surprised. I guess all you can do for now is keep the pressure on, report her every time, get recordings, keep a log of everything that happens. And maybe think about moving. I was once being harassed by a neighbour who screamed at me every time I left my house. I involved her landlord who was useless. Eventually I moved. It's so awful.

No way are you being stupid. It was our first bought flat, we were so happy, but idiot neighbour took drugs, got drunk, lost his job replacing windscreens for a big company and was on a path of self destruction. I hated him with a passion for years. Been in the current house for 22 years next month and been mostly happy with the neighbours. We’re dreading a new neighbour moving in, he’s already shown himself to be an inconsiderate arsehole, causing damage to our drive, try to dig up our drive to access mains services without permission from the providers. 😢

Hold your nerve and don’t let her pressure you in to not involving professionals. If she tries to engage you in discussion just tell her you’ve spoken to her multiple times before and it hasn’t changed anything so you ran out of options in regard to sorting it between yourselves. Then if she keeps trying to talk to you just ignore it. Also continue to report everything and it will be shared with her housing officer which will allow them to build a case for her being evicted. She might learn to behave if she realises how seriously the housing association is taking it.

Reading all this has helped so much, so thank you all. I feel like I'm always repeating myself again and again! I've just had enough. In my head it all makes so much sense but to be strong is so difficult. Especially as you can imagine the kind of people she knows!

I just have to do this for me, my sanity and my family!

set the alarm to early and play loud music back - petty but it works

Honestly I've thought about this so much, I've even thought about banging her daughters bedroom wall, seeing as though she can't let my kids sleep in their room! But I honestly think it'll just become some war, as to who can keep it going longer!

My cousin does this! I love him to bits but I feel so sorry for his neighbours.
he has severe mental health, unable to work so spends his days and evenings listening to loud garage music and taking drugs. I feel so sorry for his neighbours. He will get letters of complaints and calms down for a couple of weeks then starts again.

HAs are notoriously useless when it comes to problem tenants, I would have a solicitors letter sent to the HA

There's a guy on tiktok who is terrorised by his neighbours playing loud music. He gets revenge by connecting to their Bluetooth speaker a few hours after it's gone quiet and blasting music at them. He even takes requests in his comments as to what to play!

So her letter has dropped this afternoon she hasn't said much or reacted like she has done in the past. She has just talked under her breath as she walked past my house, to collect her daughter. Her housing officer has also called me back saying he will drop her a warning letter round tomorrow, so all in her court. Like you have said hold you nerve! Don't let her break you!

Can you blare loud music in the morning ?

I feel for you, I have had similar. The police will do NOTHING to help long term and getting then evicted by council is almost impossible without long term seriously bad behaviour over a LOOONNNGGG period of time. Its rare they evict people even people who truly are causing ALOT of problems.

Its a sad world we live in unfortunately where people have no consideration for others and sadly those in positions of authority will triangulate you into their nonsense.

It's so awful. I had 2 sets of noisy neighbours which broke my health.

One side would get drugged up and either play loud music or shout at 3am for hours. She would scream about nothing. I reported her to the council and the police. Nothing worked.

The other side played loud music and shouted at each other 10 hours a day. When I finally lost it with them they were upset! They also hated anyone else's noise like mowing the grass.

I was the only one working through a global pandemic and surviving on 3 hours sleep.

I ended up moving and it took years for my health to recover.

You could continue to report her to everyone and see if it helps.

You need to keep on at the housing association to sort it... keep a diary of the time's it's happening.. any communication.. I think you will have to keep on at her landlords to sort this.. but you do have rights. Good luck with this ordeal.

Social Services as she has children

But keep the pressure up on both the Council and the Housing Association

Also write to your MP & Councillor