To block this friend?

[WonderfullyMe]

A really close family member of mine, who raised me so were more like a parent, died 10 days ago. I have spent this time having to take on the rest of my family's mental load. I'm also lone parent to a 6mo. For context I was there immediately before, during and after their passing.

My friend has been constantly ringing and texting but hasn't actually been much support. If anything, there is times she has been pretty insensitive with her comments and also tries to spin the conversation around where it is me giving her support.
Today she messaged me saying this "I'm sat here watching my anti dieing infront of me. How did you do it with (family member) 😪😪 xxx", and nothing else. I did not respond. About an hour ago they have again messaged and rang me saying they've had to do a welfare check on their friend and found them dead and they need me to take their mind off it.

Don't get me wrong I really feel for her if this is true but I can't help feeling that this is highly insensitive to my own situation and like I'm being quilted into being responsible for yet another person's emotional baggage. I'm already at capacity with mine and my families grief. I'm really considering blocking her, whether for a short period of time or long term and just ending the friendship.

AIBU here or am I just a being a bad friend?

Sadly your friend sounds like a grief thief. Someone who wants to be the centre of attention or be more upset than you.

So her aunt's dying, then she finds another friend dead!? She sounds a bit bonkers...if her aunty is dying that's shite, but you've lost a parent and it's a bit off talking about her aunt after what you've been through....unless she had the same type of relationship you and your loved one had.

Now, she's found her other friend dead, wouldn't she be making statements to the police?

I would reply I am at my grief support group, having recently lost my parent

I hate to say it but I do think it might be for attention.

She was estranged from her aunt and as far as im aware had quite a superficial relationship with them but I do know that the possibility of death can cause a whole load of emotions regardless of how close you are. However they have changed their profile photo to a hospital selfie of the 2 at some point today, so I do believe the aunt is sick.

This is the message i recieved about the friend and is where I'm a bit sceptical and has ultimately tipped me over the edge. But I do feel guilty for possibly abandoning a friend in need.

Incase the screenshot doesn't post of the message, it says

"Well my day just got worse. I have had to phone police and do a welfare check on X. They have kicked his down in and found him dead I had to go down and identify is body as I was one that called it in. Xxx"

Sorry op. But she's full of bs. Who on earth gets called in by the police on the day that their friends body is found to id it....they would be looking for next of kin...sorry she's pathetic.

so had to identify the body? the police didnt go to the next of kin then?

We called a welfare check on someone recently, the police came back to us hours later and all we got was "they're fine". In that vein, the police would have just said "they're dead" - not ong I'm afraid it's gonna have to be you to identify them, we can't go find their NOK, it has to be you!"

Just the randomer that called in the welfare check?

Lying...

at a time when you're consumed with grief. Block without a 2nd thought.

Competitive grieving is at play here and I would drop her like a ton of bricks as she's a selfish attention seeker who cares not one bit about you but demands that you care about her.

'I've had enough Sandra, you're an emotional vampire and your neediness does not trump my grief.' BLOCK.