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to think that a person should not put pics of other peoples children on the internet?

34 replies

IAmMummy · 13/05/2008 13:09

This might be a bit petty,and is really none of my business,but as I have children the same age it got me thinking...

I've just been on facebook,and a mum from my daughters old school has her photobucket link on there (her profile is public) I had a nose (as you do when you're bored!)and she has put photos of her daughter off on a school trip (fair enough) but she has not bothered to blank out the other kids faces- or the mums for that matter!

I know if it were my daughter I would be a bit pissed off!

Is this a bit wrong,or am I just an interfering weirdo!? I know I am!

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belgo · 13/05/2008 13:12

I wouldn't be happy if my children's picture was on the internet without my permission.

Bumdiddley · 13/05/2008 13:37

YANBU.

My friend put photos of my dcs on her Facebook page. She has 120 odd friends and counting. I don't know 99% of them and she has random people she has met once on there.

I asked her to take them down, which she did.

I appreciate that there is unlikely to be many paedophiles or weirdos on there but I dislike the idea of people I don't know looking at pictures of my babies!

wannaBe · 13/05/2008 13:40

I wouldn't want people putting pictures of my ds on the internet, but tbh I think it's just something most people don't even think about. They put up some pictures, and really most people don't think about paedophiles etc.

mrspnut · 13/05/2008 13:44

What paedophile is going to get his rocks off looking at pictures of random fully clothed children on the internet.

I can understand privacy issues but sometimes hysteria is taken too far - and when that happens you end up with Michael Jackson who makes his kids cover their heads with tea towels to step outside the house.

NatalieJaneIsPregnantAgain · 13/05/2008 13:45

I personally would never put a picture up of anyone else kids without the parent's permission, but, at the same time, if it is just normal pictures of kids having a good time at the park or on a day out somewhere, I really can't see the harm. Even if a paedophile looked, what are they going to see? The same as what they'd see looking at kids catalogues or whatever.

If it was kids swimming or something like that then I just wouldn't put the pics on the net.

nametaken · 13/05/2008 13:49

YABU - what's the harm

MindingMum · 13/05/2008 13:50

I'm a childminder and would be struck off if I did this.

Bad enough taking the photo but posting it on the internet

There could be a child protection issue with one of the background children and someone could end up in a lot of trouble who didn't even know anything about it

littlepinkpixie · 13/05/2008 13:51

Someone did this to mine, which I normally wouldnt have minded, but with the names and town they lived in. I was very annoyed.

Bumdiddley · 13/05/2008 13:52

I said it was unlikely there were paedos out there!!

Anyway, would you like a paedophile to have pictures of your children? Surely it is better to minimise the risk.

As I said I don't even want random strangers to have pictures of my kids.

Joash · 13/05/2008 13:52

I agree with you IAmMummy - It's not right to put another childs pics on without the parents permission. For me it's not the usual 'ro' about paedo's, it's about formerly working with survivors of domestic abuse - many of who had moved away from their ex-partners, taking their children with them and attempting to make a new life without their abusers being able to find them. In the time I worked with these groups, we had three woman traced (and one of those was murdered) from other people using pics of children without thinking (two placed on the internet, one in a newspaper article about a summer playscheme).

Gobbledigook · 13/05/2008 13:53

I've seen this same thing IAMMummy - someone I know puts up photos of their kids' parties with lots of other children on, without their parents' permission.

Their is obviously nothing dodgy about the photos but I think it's a bit 'off' to put photos of other people's children on teh internet without asking. I wouldn't like it tbh (even though I can't really rationalise why!).

meemar · 13/05/2008 13:53

It's harmless so YABU. Society has this skewed perception of the harm that can come to children because strangers can see photos of them.

Strangers see your children in real life every single day when you take them out on the street.

MindingMum · 13/05/2008 13:54

mrspnut - not all paedophiles get off on looking at unclothed children. I have attended a course on this and we were told that a particular feature on the child (clothed or unclothed) can turn them on - so you never know.

Personally I wouldn't post photos of my children on the internet.

belgo · 13/05/2008 13:58

I would be very annoyed at someone posting photos of me on the internet, let alone my children. It a basic right to privacy.

meemar · 13/05/2008 14:00

If the pictures are anonymous (i.e no details to identify you) how is your privacy anymore invaded than if someone looks at you in the street?

WanderingTrolley · 13/05/2008 14:01

I think it's a bit rude. Yes, there may be security issues - eg children in care, but ultimately it's up to the parents if their children's photos appear on t'interweb.

I work with children and tbh I am shocked by the ease with which some on nannyjob childcarers post all sorts of details about other people's children. If I post about any child, I tend to change key details unless it's a v vague reference.

belgo · 13/05/2008 14:01

but are they private if on someone's facebook? They are identifiable through whoever put them up there.

HappyNewYearFeet06 · 13/05/2008 14:04

Yes, agree that on facebook only yourfriends on facebook can access your pictures so not a problem there.

However, if she has friends that you don't even know then it I would be a bit wary.

JaneHH · 13/05/2008 14:04

Very to read that UK society has turned into this. Not having children (and not living in the UK anymore) I'm not really au fait with the latest thinking on all this but it just strikes me that we've all gone overboard in worrying about the slightest thing. (Viz. so many other threads on here) What's the harm in photos of a children's party on the internet as long as names + addresses aren't posted at the same time...? Surely the fun in sharing this kind of thing with friends whom you know (and who are the only people who can see your photos on Facebook if you set it up correctly) outweighs the slightest possible risk that someone weird might -gasp- see a photo of your child? As someone else said, weird people can see your children when you walk down the street... should we all stop going shopping now? What's the worst that can happen?

JaneHH · 13/05/2008 14:04

sorry x post in the time it took me to type that last missive...

meemar · 13/05/2008 14:04

belgo - really not trying to be picky but genuinely don't get your point

If I put pics of my DS birthday party on my facebook, with pictures of (unnamed) guests in the background, my friends can see those pics, yes. But how will they be able to identify who those other kids are?

UnquietDad · 13/05/2008 14:21

On Facebook you can set your photo albums to be viewable by your friends only, which I always do.

UnquietDad · 13/05/2008 14:22

...As people have already said. Sorry.

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