To have had enough of everything I raised being deflected

[UpDownAllAround99]

Anyone else have an issue with their partner not taking on board what you say with good grace.

They make a mountain out of a molehill and turn everything around...i.e. I say, are you aware of X, could do X next time?' and they don't respond to what I have said, just tell me that I have raised it in the wrong way.

So whatever I have raised gets lost amongst their grievance about the way I have raised it.

I feel like I can't be bothered any more with conversations going this route.

The other thing is that a counter something will be raised against me...again deflecting.

Feel worn down by these techniques.

Life’s too short to put up with this shit

Do you take on board what they have said about how you raise issues? Goes both ways.

I hear what you are saying, in the past I have raised things really gently, in tone and word, and get the same response. So it feels like a reaction that happens however I say something, they perceive it as an attack, whereas for me it is a conversation.

Have they said how they would like it to be raised?
How do they raise things themselves with other people?

If they haven't and they are no less confrontational, it just sounds like an excuse to try and get some control. In which case I wouldn't put up with it because nothing will ever be good enough or resolved.

If someone started a discussion with me with "Are you aware that". I'd find it really condescending and it would get my back right up. You sound like your communication styles are very different and you are putting him onto defence mode.

How long have you been together, if you aren't happy and are sick of it why not leave?