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AIBU?

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Happy with an emogi?

39 replies

Themaths · 18/03/2025 01:19

I work with a group of women, I put a picture onto our whatsapp group (which is 3 of us), and no response not even am emogi. AIBU to be hurt. I would have been happy with a heart 💚

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Foxlovesfruit · 18/03/2025 08:09

I would just delete the photo and not post personal pics again. Sounds like a lovely photo, but these are work colleagues and seemingly not interested in those sorts of pics. Each member probably relied on another member to 'react' and don't realise that no one actually has and how hurt you feel because of that.

I personally would have reacted, because it's the kind thing to do but obviously not them.

Try to forget about it.

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 18/03/2025 08:11

Lungwort · 18/03/2025 08:01

What type of person would not want to be ‘reminded it is St Patrick’s Day’, though? Someone who once had a holiday in Connemara when it rained? Someone allergic to the sight of shamrock-shaped boppers?

OP are you in Ireland, and are your colleagues? Because whether it was a bank holiday and people were out at parades or were having a normal working Monday is going to have an impact on whether people were likely to see WhatsApps yesterday. I’m only responding now, for instance (Tuesday breakfast), to messages from yesterday afternoon, because I took DS to the parade and then went to a seisiún with friends till late.

Not everyone has to be overinvested in the celebration of national 'saints'. We don't see the world going celebrating st george's/david's/andrews day, so why make an exception for patrick?
It isn't compulsory to be informed of the minutiae of colleague's lives

Lungwort · 18/03/2025 08:13

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 18/03/2025 08:11

Not everyone has to be overinvested in the celebration of national 'saints'. We don't see the world going celebrating st george's/david's/andrews day, so why make an exception for patrick?
It isn't compulsory to be informed of the minutiae of colleague's lives

Are you this sour in all your interactions?

Doingmybest12 · 18/03/2025 08:22

Are you Irish , are your colleagues Irish? What kind of dressing up was it?

Littlemisscapable · 18/03/2025 08:25

They might have just been busy or whatever don't over think this so much..

EmpressaurusKitty · 18/03/2025 08:33

Foxlovesfruit · 18/03/2025 08:09

I would just delete the photo and not post personal pics again. Sounds like a lovely photo, but these are work colleagues and seemingly not interested in those sorts of pics. Each member probably relied on another member to 'react' and don't realise that no one actually has and how hurt you feel because of that.

I personally would have reacted, because it's the kind thing to do but obviously not them.

Try to forget about it.

But the OP said in a later post that her colleagues post photos of their kids on the group too.

saveforthat · 18/03/2025 08:36

ErrolTheDragon · 18/03/2025 07:41

Do adults really get ‘hurt’ if no one responds to that sort of WhatsApp messagesConfused

This. The world has gone mad.

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 18/03/2025 08:45

Lungwort · 18/03/2025 08:13

Are you this sour in all your interactions?

🤣🤣🤣
Only on MN could holding an alternative opinion/not thinking you have to be all 'ooh how gorgeous' about other people's kids, be deemed sour!

Swonderful · 18/03/2025 08:50

The etiquette on social media is a minefield. My kids sometimes tell me off because I do an emoji on posts instead of responding with words??? Also I don't respond to every single post or photo as it seems weird. Would you say "that's lovely" to everything if you were looking through an album in real life?

Apparently I should have written a reply to every single photo from my daughters school trip!!!

Headingtowardsdivorce · 18/03/2025 08:50

Doingmybest12 · 18/03/2025 08:22

Are you Irish , are your colleagues Irish? What kind of dressing up was it?

I'd like to know this too before giving my opinion.

Lungwort · 18/03/2025 08:51

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 18/03/2025 08:45

🤣🤣🤣
Only on MN could holding an alternative opinion/not thinking you have to be all 'ooh how gorgeous' about other people's kids, be deemed sour!

Nothing to do with the children, it was your begrudging remark about the world not going crazy for British patron saints, so ‘why make an exception for St Patrick?’ It suggests you sitting crossly in your garden with a St George’s flag saying ‘Wot, no parade?’

TorroFerney · 18/03/2025 10:40

Lungwort · 18/03/2025 08:13

Are you this sour in all your interactions?

It’s true though, for a lot of Brits who have no Irish connection it is just an excuse to booze, that is obvious from the lack of celebration of other saints where it’s not linked to drink.

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 18/03/2025 11:00

Lungwort · 18/03/2025 08:51

Nothing to do with the children, it was your begrudging remark about the world not going crazy for British patron saints, so ‘why make an exception for St Patrick?’ It suggests you sitting crossly in your garden with a St George’s flag saying ‘Wot, no parade?’

You have a very active imagination.

Actually, i don't believe in any religion so celebrating any 'saint' is ridiculous.

Themaths · 24/03/2025 00:20

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 18/03/2025 07:01

Why would your work group be interested in a St Patrick's day photo of your kids? Unless they are Irish or heavily invested in them, what's the point?
Not being personal, but the children of work colleagues are of very little interest to their colleagues.
Yabu

Because we are all Irish...
Thanks to everyone for your helpful comments. I felt stupid after posting, so thanks for the good advice.

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